See what CafeMoms are saying about saving time this holiday season..
I had joined a while back to get good advice and people situations before we start to hopefully adopt a little girl. We had planned on starting the process sometime next year, as our son would be 1, and we knew it could be a long process.
Well, my husband has a 1 year old (his birthday was today) with his ex. (Long story no cheating, we were broken up for about a year and a half, before getting back together and eloping. Had been together 4 years before the break up.
And in October of last year he was abused and diagnosed with Shaken Baby Syndrome. We tried for custody then but lawyers said it would be impossible due to another guy being on the birth certificate, that guy is now in prison for the abuse. Even CPS stopped talking to us.
Well, now almost a year later we have been contacted by CPS, they now are going to court tomorrow to get a blood test ordered for paternity between my husband and the child. And have offered us custody not only of teh 1 year old but of his half sibling who is 3 also.
We also found out that she is pregant and we are not sure if since she lost rights to this one if she will of that one too. But have wondered if so we'll be offered that child. (If it makes it, she's already smoking and doing drugs)
I'm not sure where I belong, as I'm technically C's step mom but will be adopting him and his brother legally. Since mom has lost rights. So I feel like in the middle somewhere. But HI! Any advice, I'm not sure how either boy is doing, we were told that C the 1 year old, does have developmental delays due to the abuse. B has lived off and on with his grandmother, that's the 3 year old, and they both stay with her 5 days a week now, and are in foster care the rest of the time. We are also states away, they are in Nebraska, we are in Hawaii.
Both DH and I are feeling really bad that this wasn't all straightened out for C to be able to be here for his first birthday today.