So today is the court date for social services to ask for a paternity test. We can't be there because the boys are in Nebraska, and we are in Hawaii.
The case worker usually emails us, it's just easier with DH's work schedule and the time change... so I've been checking his email almost every 10 minutes. It's driving me crazy, this could make or break our getting custody of the kids.
From what we were told by several lawyers before the boys were in state custody, Nebraska does not see biological fathers as having rights unless they are on the birth certificate, we were told that we couldn't even petition the court for a test because there was another man on the BC. So we had to wait for CPS to hopefully step in and then for them to ask for a test, I'm just so sad it came at such a high cost (my 1 year old step son was beaten so badly he has shaken baby syndrome)
We are still very afraid that for whatever reason the judge will deny the social workers request for a paternity test.
How do you all stay sane while waiting to hear back about things like this?
I emailed the case worker today and she got right back to me. Court went AMAZING!! We were granted the order for paternity!!! No date for the test yet, she said she had to wait for the paperwork to take to the power's that be and get things moving. Still haven't heard for Hawaii CPS either, but we're taking steps in the right direction!!
And I asked about updates on the boys seeing as how the grandmother will no longer answer emails, and she told us that the grandmother is very upset that we are going for the boys (which is understandable) so she will no longer be answering any emails or giving any updates... which is what we had figured was going on. Just frustrating because it would be nice to get pictures and updates, although case worker did hear that he loved his first taste of cake and that she would talk to the foster mother about maybe allowing us to email her so we can get pictures and updates.
So that's what is going on so far :) Steps in the right direction!