Isaac is sleeping on the couch so while I was folding laundry I was flipping through the TV channels and came across a show on TLC called Birth Mother. Have any of you seen it? Oh gosh the emotions it evoked in me!!!
The girls are from Utah so they only have 24 hours after the birth to change their minds-after they sign the adoption papers thats it they can not change their minds. 2 of them picked their adoptive parents 24 hours PRIOR to being induced!
Anyway the one that really gave me pause was the birth mother who said to her adoptive parents "I have a favor to ask you" and of course they are waiting for the shoe to drop "I don't want you to ever tell him he's adopted"
I know the majority disagree with me on not telling them from birth...but what do you do in a situation like that? Do you honor the birth mothers wishes? The reason being is she didn't want him to be able to find her when he is older-so she had that written into her post placement agreement. So what do you do? Do you honor the birth mothers wishes? Or do you follow the PC thought of the day to tell them from birth that they are adopted and hope he respects the births mothers wishes of him not looking for her when he is older? Of course the other vignettes were the standard "We will tell him (it was an all boy episode) how special you were, and we will send photos and letters..." but the first one stood out...
I'm not trying to stir up trouble, I'm just curious...I'd love to see if this is on regularly at this time of day for I will add it to my schedule. My luck it was a one time deal and won't be on again :(