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Do you identify yourself as an amom in other groups?

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I generally don't. I guess I just don't want to get into the whole story about adopting my dd's children when I'm in a group for mom's with little kids. But on the other hand I feel kind of deceptive because I am not disclosing that I have two adult kids and have taught for 30 years. I just joined the one for elementary school age kids and haven't joined in b/c I feel kind of funny like I'm lying by ommission. I have sent kids off to K before and been there, done that with elem school. I have the same feeling with the fb page for his school. There is a grandma raising her kids who is always so self-deprecating and always saying stuff like "it's been so long since I bought school supplies". I don't intend to post my business there though I'm sure everyone will know since I taught some of those mommies lol. Your opinion?
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by on Jul. 17, 2012 at 12:28 AM
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DJAKoala
by on Jul. 17, 2012 at 11:20 PM
I don't freely talk about it unless the moms I am with start talking about something I can't relate to. Most of the boys friends mom know they are adopted. I have had a great reception from them. I belong to theElementary School Kids group, I enjoy it,the moms are very supportive. You don't have to share you are an Amom or "older". There are many moms who are our age in there. With your experience as a teacher your wisdom would be very helpful there.
jen1130
by Bronze Member on Jul. 18, 2012 at 8:28 AM
I have no problem saying my kids are adopted.....I don't always post about it. But I am not afraid to.
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mcginnisc
by Claire on Jul. 18, 2012 at 8:32 AM

I've been on CM for so long, that most people know I'm an adoptive mom.. It doesn't bother me in the least and I can offer a different perspective since Lilly is a different race and we adopted Internationally. 

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Javamom00
by Member on Jul. 18, 2012 at 8:37 AM
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I post that I am an adoptive mom.  I see him as mine, but I am proud that I  adopted him, and he is black I am white. It is one of my most precious moments of my life.  Some adoptive parents don't want other ppl to know. Here most of us are very proud of our stories and want to share them.  Adoption is a never ending journey. To me there is so much more energy in raising my adopted son and step son then there is in raising my birth son.. you can talk here... one of the more "safe havens" it.  shake hand 

aprilz1225
by Silver Member on Jul. 18, 2012 at 8:42 AM
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 well i wanted to, but i just leave that up to ignorance of the process and figured God will sort them out when he ask how do you feel being my adopted child?.. after all we are God's adopted children. :)

Quoting StA123C:

People are asking your son that?! Omg what is wrong with people?! I hope you go totally ape shit over that! I think that's the worst dumb comment I've heard of yet!


Quoting aprilz1225:

 There was a post one time in another group that was about a license to parent... That ppl should go through all kinds of test to be cleared to be parents... i spoke up and said "gee guess i'm good, i'm an adoptive parent we do have to do that". "Our family passed for the 2 x so i think i got this"... you would have been inpressed how shocked ppl were when i told them about the homestudy process. lol.. but sometimes i don't to avoid dumb question... like when i say Conner is adopted, someone replied once " so your son is not biologicaly yours, don't you miss your real mom and dad (at my son) what do his parents think about that?... my reply.." well, let's see.. his birthmom wants no contact till 18 and his birthfather doesn't want him to know about him, so why don't you call and ask them." their reply "well excuse me".


 

jen1130
by Bronze Member on Jul. 18, 2012 at 7:27 PM
Well said!!!! :)


Quoting Javamom00:

I post that I am an adoptive mom.  I see him as mine, but I am proud that I  adopted him, and he is black I am white. It is one of my most precious moments of my life.  Some adoptive parents don't want other ppl to know. Here most of us are very proud of our stories and want to share them.  Adoption is a never ending journey. To me there is so much more energy in raising my adopted son and step son then there is in raising my birth son.. you can talk here... one of the more "safe havens" it.  shake hand 


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SarahSuzyQ
by Sarah on Jul. 18, 2012 at 10:00 PM
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Maybe I will start posting that I am an amom, now that I am one?? :)

2Busy4Choas
by on Jul. 19, 2012 at 8:28 AM

 If it has to do with an experience I may mention but I dont think I announce it... lol Now Im thinking hahaha

aprilz1225
by Silver Member on Jul. 19, 2012 at 8:32 AM

 nice!

Quoting jen1130:

Well said!!!! :)


Quoting Javamom00:

I post that I am an adoptive mom.  I see him as mine, but I am proud that I  adopted him, and he is black I am white. It is one of my most precious moments of my life.  Some adoptive parents don't want other ppl to know. Here most of us are very proud of our stories and want to share them.  Adoption is a never ending journey. To me there is so much more energy in raising my adopted son and step son then there is in raising my birth son.. you can talk here... one of the more "safe havens" it.  shake hand 


 

disneymom2two
by Member on Jul. 19, 2012 at 8:35 AM
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If its pertinent to the conversation I do.

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