We got the news today that our adoption home study is finalized and being sent to CWs of four potential children age 10 and older. I thought it was time to introduce my 3 yr old niece to the idea of adoption since she will interact regularly with our child even with the age difference. I first asked her if it was okay if Uncle Mike (DH) and I got a kid. She first shook her head No, then looked at me and around the house then shrugged. So I read her "Chosen Baby" this evening. Outdated and not the best way to explain older child adoption, but it is the only book I have on hand about adoption for a child her age. My niece comprehends a lot for a 3 yr old and is very vocal.When the book got to the part about setting up the baby's room, I said the bedroom we were sitting in will become our child's room. She claims the room as hers and has for 18 months even though she only spends about 10 minutes each week in there playing. She looked around the room, looked at me and shrugged.
It might become easier once we are matched so we have a name and a photo to talk about her cousin. We are expecting jealousy from her when a child is placed because she has our attention when she comes over. She has her own set of dishware; she knows she can ask for sticker from the sticker box; she has access to the toys, movies and books we have for children and is the only child who uses them. She is very possessive of Uncle Mike. She has already stated to her parents she does not want a sibling. Not sure if she will have the same feelings about us adopting. She is vocal and opinionated.
Any suggestions on working with her as we move through our adoption process? We see her once a week or every 2 weeks.