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This is my 23rd year at my school, which has a large faculty with a regular turn over, and I just realized I am the only person there who has adopted. One of our itinerate therapists adopted internattionally 7 years ago, and when I wanted to do a little something for her even if it was just take up a collection for a gift card, no one wanted to because she was single so they all thought she was a lesbian. Like that should be a reason not to celebrate an adoption even if she was. I do constant battle over my coworkers calling me grandma and I'm at the point I'm getting pretty short with people. Yesterday a new teacher whose son is going to his school asked me if my "grandson" was taking the bus that afternoon. She came after I adopted him, so obviously other people are still telling folks that I am the grandmother. I have also had to field comments from coworkers who think I stole the boys from my dd, that I was wrong to adopt them, that I am "like" a mother but am not. It's frustrating and I'm just glad I don't have much longer before I retire. But what gives? Do you think certain regions have more people who are negative towards adoptions? I've heard ugly comments about families when "father unknown' is marked on a child's BC or when a family member is raising the child. They are also negative towards divorced families and expect those kids to be bad. The majority of the faculty consider themselves religious and they hold a prayer meeting after school one day a week. I would have thought Christians would be more inclined to support adoption since they are against pro choice.