Hi, my name is Erma. I am married to my best friend. We have been together since I was 15 years old. We share three children of our own. I have a baby named Zachary that we just got permanent custody of on August 13, 2012. The baby was born On December 22, 2010. The child belongs to my husband cousin. We had the baby with us for the first 3 months of his life off and on, then his mother who has mental health issues took him away for 2 months, on May 21, 2011 DEFACS gave him back to my husband and I. The baby was one day shy of 5 months and weighed less than 12 lbs. He had severe bruises on each side of his head. His mother was arrested for 3 counts of child cruelty. It was the day before he turned 5 months old. The parents had visitation 1 time a week on Tuesdays from 8 am till 10 am. They couldn't even make visitation to see their baby. Within one week of us having him DEFACS had us take him to be circumcised, because they didn't take care of it properly and you couldn't clean it properly because it was closed all but just a little hole. We had to build a room, pay for finger prints, pay for drug test, have our children given and us physicals, and our dogs updated on all shots, and do everything that anyone else would have to do to become foster parents. A very long process. Well, we are from Ga and the mother and father moved to Cheyenne Wy on August 17, 2011. Not having anymore visitation with the baby. They call from time to time. They never called on his first birthday, or Christmas. They promise to send him stuff and never have. They are worthless. But, really honestly don't care for there son. In fact, when we was gonna let DEFACS pull the rights and adopt the baby ~ the mother had the nerve to ask me for an open adoption. Then, she went on to tell me that ..." Erma, me and Sam ain't gonna fight you for Zach, Sam wants a baby from start to finish not one someone has taken care of for over a year..." So, basically she said they didn't want him... She already lost one to DEFACS when she was 3 months. Her mother lost her and her brothers and sisters to DEFACS. Same thing with her Grandmother who had all her children removed by DEFACS. Their loss, our gain. We love this baby. He is our blessing.
My question is this group for me...?
Because, we didnt adopt persay, we decided to accept permanant custody since they didnt want him anyway. Since we already have 3 children of our own DEFACS said this was the best route to accomplish the same thing... Alot less money.