We keep running into little snags throughout pursuing adoption. It took forever to find a lawyer who would handle our case and even longer finding the right lawyer for the case. After we found the right lawyer, Issac hit our hometown. We had to evacuate and spent our savings trying to get out of dodge. We got back and the birthmother dropped off the face of the earth. And now that things are in place again, we just can't afford the $6000 retainer. We have considered just filing for custody, but tonight we were in the Emergency Room (found out the baby has tonsillitis) and the nurse was telling me that there were all sorts of grants and funds that would help with adoption. But everything I've found is for people who are going through adoption agencies. Has anyone gone through with an independent 3rd party adoption and been able to use grants or financial assistance? If so, what programs assisted you?