Hello Mommies. I just joined today. I am an adoptive mommy of an 11 year old girl. Im not sure how this forum works, but I'm so excited to meet mommies like me :). I am also looking for help and someone who understands being an adoptive mommy of a pre-teen. Its getting a little difficult because questions are coming from every angle... And I'm not sure what approach direction to go and lead my daughter into the direction of confidence and security about the situation. Even kids at her school ( and you know how jr High kids can be ) asked her " why were you adopted" ? .... Was sooo much easier when she was just "my baby girlrrrrl" and thats ALL that mattered...... Help !