I am loving this group, it has given me so much insight on communication and how to discuss adoption with my sons. I adopted both my stepsons this last year ages 5 &6. That said I would love to hear from some other step parent adopters out there and hear about their stories, struggles, anything to make me feel like I am not alone in this.
I know down the road what is best for my sons is to be able to know their birth mom and be able to have a relationship, I just struggle right now with them having contact her. I feel that contact is no different then how their relationship was before the adoption. I have raised my sons since they were ages 6months and 17 months. Throughout their lives they have had contact with Bio Mom and visitation just nothing consistent. I have been the one there for them through everything, first steps, words, school, potty training. Everything. I don't want to sound selfish and I realize this will probably come off to some as selfish but I cannot wait for the day they call me mom. I have been a stepparent for so long , and now I can't wait for the day when I am no longer a step parent in their eyes but instead their mom. They can take as long as they want, and I understand it may not happen for a long time. Any others in my sistuation??