I have several distant "friends." These are people that I don't talk to everyday but I'm friends with on Facebook. We see each others pictures and comment on how big our kids are getting and how we should get them together but never actually do. These are also friends family of people we used to be really close with but lost touch because the friend we had in common moved away.
Well my question is how do I explain my adopted son to these people when I run into them in public?
All of my close friends understand the situation and know that my DH and I adopted his grandson. They know "where he came from" and all have pretty much accepted that he is our son.
But then I run into these random people who know me but they don't really know my day to day life.
Like last night I was at wal-mart near my parents house (my parents live in the town I grew up in). I swear I ran into 15 people I knew. Some of the knew the situation with DS, or knew enough to not ask questions.
But then there were others who were just genuinely curious, they weren't trying to be rude just confused. These people knew that I had DS (my oldest) but they knew that we wasn't 10 months old. They also know I am pregnant. I truly believe that anyone that questioned me felt bad at first because they thought they missed one of my pregnancies.
I got comments like
"Now who is this little guy?"
"I knew you were prengnat, but I didn't know that LD (my oldest DS) already had a little brother?"
Then some were just plain straight forward "He's not yours he is? I know I haven't seen you in a while, but I don't remember you having a second child?"
Some of the questions I just answered vaguely, like "This is Michael he is 10 months old." "Yeah I guess it has been a while..."
I'm trying to keep it simple, but someitmes I have to explain that he is adopted, just becaue the math is almost too close. I feel really bad about doing so... I know DS is not old enough to undestand, but I don't want him to think I am disowning him. Also we don't plan on telling DS that he is adopted until he is old enough to understand per his BM's request.
So I need a better answer other than "Oh, he's adopted."
I'm sure a lot of you don't have this problem if you had a planned adoption...but maybe you might still have suggestions?