I'm so frustrated! Our case worker told us in August that we could start inquiring and getting information on waiting children (we were still in our foster parents class). That's how we came into being considered for J. J's case worker had been waiting on our homestudy. I called our case worker's office to see if it had been sent yet. I was told that until we complete the adoption class (which they JUST scheduled for January) they won't send out our homestudy. There is no reason they can give us for this, expect we have to have this class completed before we can FINALIZE an adoption. This goes against what I was previously told.
I emailed J's case worker last week to let her know what I was told. It's been over a week and I still haven't gotten an email back. Now J's profile has been taken off of the photolisting. I'm wondering if they chose a different family. I emailed her case worker to ask if we could just know if another family was chosen.
If one has been, I'm okay. I'm glad she may have found a home, even if it isn't ours. I know that if another family was chosen, that just means God has a different child for us. God knows better than I, so I'm completely fine with that. However, I'm really frustrated with our case worker. Why the bureaucracy (though I know that's just how the system tends to go)? I feel like we are trying to do a good thing, a great thing, and they are just standing in our way. DH questioned at first if we could to foster care (in hopes to adopt) if we have to work with this case worker. But we know either way if we want to adopt through foster care we have to work with her. I really don't want to deal with the bureaucracy, but I know I can't give up because I want so badly to adopt. I truly believe God has lead us to adopt. I'm trying just to lean on God and trust he is in control.
Update: I just got an email from J's case worker stating that they did choose another family for her. She was nice and friendly (as she's been in all our interaction with her) and wished us well in finding the child for our family.