I'm at the end of the wait but this process is sooooo frustrating Update 1-23
Everything with adopting our two younger ones has gone so smoothly until about a month ago. First of all the foster mom got jealous and filed a complaint against us. It was all lies! So our visits stopped until we could get it sorted out. (they've started back up) She didn't like it that the kids were calling us mom and dad already. It took them 3 visits. Most of it was probably our other kids calling us mom and dad anyway. :( so then they were trying to expedite the process but our state is slow as molasses. The file sat for 3 weeks on someones desk. NOW they finally got the file done (they've had since NOvember) and sent it back through. As soon as the state gets it they can come home. Which they thought would be Thursday but here we are still waiting on my state to get with it. I am so fed up with my state. :( They just take months to do what could be done in a couple of days. The other state is fed up with our state too. I understand they are busy people but I HATE that my kids are across state lines with a woman who is lying about us...maybe even to the kids. (the lies in the complaintwere crazy!!!!) Whats crazy is that she doesn't even want them! I am stressed but they could come home any day so I am trying to remain positive. Just had to get that out. I'm ready, the kids are ready, My husband is ready. This is the worst part of foster care adoption! They could have been home by now and I guess thats what is bothering me the most. Plus the plan to have open contact with the foster mom is kind of messed up now. The case workers have advised us to not have any contact with her but it makes me so sad for the kids. They ARE going to miss her. I am really scared about that. Thanks for letting me vent.
We got a call last Friday saying that they'd be home this week but we haven't gotten a call this week to find out when. Its driving me NUTS sitting by the phone! Also foster mom complained again about us and said that she outright asked us to add her on facebook and we said no. She said that she also asked if she could have pictures and updates and we said no. That is a flat out lie! In fact when we talked to her the first few times I was the one who mentioned adding her on facebook and keeping it open, because I WANTED to! I was to the point where I was going to let it all go and allow the kids to skype her but I'm honestly scared to. I'll let you know when they call. I have hope we will hear something this week but date number 3 has come and gone...again so its definitely getting old.