Well some of us who adopted from foster care had BPs who contested the termination... Which would be similar in some ways. And some of the moms did adopt step-children, so you'll probably get a lot of perspectives.
Terminating parental rights is a very difficult process, as well it should be. I'm not saying that in judgement on your situation, because I don't know anything about your SS or his bmom. Just pointing out that TPR means severing all relationship between a parent and child, so there is a very high burden of proof as to why that is necessary. Have you consulted a lawyer? Do you have a sense that you'll have enough legal grounds to move forward?
Welcome to the group, btw. Hopefully you'll find some good advice and support here.
Here's one for ya...we are still in the process of adopting our DS and he does live with us, since birth...now the BM has already TPR'd so technically she has no say over anything we do...even the lawyer has said she has no grounds...but a few months ago she made the comment to friends that when the final hearing is set, she is not signing off on the adoption! I was like WTH? Both of our kids are from the same BM, so when we adopted DD, we were in AL and she was living in OH....but this time around we are in the same town, same state...UGH! I don't know whether to let her know when the final hearing is set, just to be polite or just do it and not say anything to her at all...am trying to be nice and include her in things since we have an open adoption arrangement but she is such a pain in my ppppbbbb! She's very immature and I don't want her causing a scene on a happy moment with friends and family! Any thoughts?
At what age do you tell the child they are adopted?
- Godlymom87
on Feb. 16, 2013 at 10:56 PM