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I "drugged" my DH.. does that make me a bad wife?

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OK so DH has had trouble with his stamina since we got married 4 yrs ago. We dated for 2 years before then and the sex was beyond amazing. A few weeks before we got married he started dying down a bit but I just thought it was bc of all the stress from school and getting married. Well 2 yrs went by and it just got worse, he would last 5 minutes at most so we would have sex 3 or 4 times a day. Well after DD was born we went a while without it, like 3 months bc of healing and what not. So we finally do it and it was HORRIBLE!! He could not keep it up, the foreplay was bad, even the kissing was bad. Since then we might have sex every 4 to 6 weeks. So yeah yesterday I was so mad bc I didn't get it on my anniversary or my birthday so I drugged him and yesterday was the best it has been in years! So I kinda felt bad but, I told him after and he said the awesome happy fun time was worth it. lol So does this make me a bad wife? Have any of you done or thought about doing this to DH/SO?

We have talked about it for 2 yrs now and he will not go get checked out. It is an herbal pill called Extenze. It worked great and I finally got to enjoy my husband for more than 15 minutes. I have no shame, besides i have told him a couple different times that if he didn't do something about it then I would. Just sayin 

by on Aug. 31, 2012 at 3:33 PM
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by on Sep. 1, 2012 at 10:50 AM

no its NOT normal for him to not be able to get a BONER .  thats why he needs to see a DR not take over the counter crap bought at 7-11.  not being able to keep it up is a HUGE sign of prostate cancer.  

Quoting Lena-Loo:

NO, I never though my 24 year old husband had a med problem,  everyone knows it is normal for someone that Young to not be able to get a bonner.

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Fucking A, read the rest of the fucking posts before you start your bitch rant!!! Thank you come again. NEXT!!

Quoting Cheribomb:

wow you are a fucking idiot...  did you do ANY research?  if you had you would see that Extenze causes heart problems.  a lot of men complain of heart palpitations & dizziness MONTHS after using the pill a couple of times.  who the fuck is stupid enough to use a non approved pill that they sell at gas stations?  have you thought maybe he is having medical issues?  you do realized that as a man's prostate gets bigger it makes it harder for him to have /keep a hard on.  you are a selfish twit....


by on Sep. 1, 2012 at 11:10 AM

No crap. We know the signs of it and I have begged him to go but, after I was treated for cervical cancer last year he is even more terrified of going. He knows what treatment is like and does not want to go through it.

Quoting Cheribomb:

no its NOT normal for him to not be able to get a BONER .  thats why he needs to see a DR not take over the counter crap bought at 7-11.  not being able to keep it up is a HUGE sign of prostate cancer.  

by on Sep. 1, 2012 at 11:20 AM
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If I'd known such a thing existed I woud have done it too! Good for you! I just asked my DH if he would be mad if I did that and he said not at all. So where do I buy that....? Lol
by on Sep. 1, 2012 at 11:25 AM
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I say as long as it doesnt have wierd side affects amd is all natural, them go for it;) sounds like he was happy too, so I would say okay. You ARE his wife and as my dh says, a wife has carte blanch with her dh. I monitor dh diet and even make raw fudge with added vitamins and nutrients he has no idea he is taking, he wouldnt take a daily regimine of vitamins, buT he will eat a raw delicious fudge.
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by Anonymous 9 on Sep. 1, 2012 at 12:24 PM
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Wow, to all the people saying you're insane and/or psycho. Cause honestly, I'm guilty of this exact same thing. It was some little red stamina pill I got from the sex store.. I can't remember the name, it was a few months ago.. DH started a new job and was always soooo tired so he couldn't preform like usual. He would come home every night and ask for asprin so he could do a little, but I never got off.. So one night I handed him those instead of asprin and didn't tell him. It worked, my 5 minutes became almost half an hour and lets say I had to wash the sheets afterwards.. Lol. I told him when we were done and he thought it was funny. No harm done.

by Bronze Member on Sep. 1, 2012 at 12:49 PM
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I'm sure someone has already said this, but he needs to go to the doctor.  I used to work for a vitamin and supplement company and even though there are "natural alternatives" those could complicate someone's condition if one is present.  I would hate to see a follow up post saying something is truly wrong with him and you drugging him made it worse. 

by on Sep. 1, 2012 at 1:26 PM

i have often thought about doing that to my husband. i dont really think i have to now since we talked about his lack of stamina. he knew it was a problem before we talked about it so he is gonna work on that.

by Anonymous 10 on Sep. 1, 2012 at 3:11 PM
If he ddnt care than don't feel bad as long as you both were satisfied...
by on Sep. 1, 2012 at 3:12 PM
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I would never do that without discussing it with my DH first.

by on Sep. 1, 2012 at 3:46 PM

lol I love how people are calling you a bad wife, makes me laugh. Cuz I'm sure they've never done anything a tad wrong.

I think you did what you had to do and if it worked then hey, more power to ya. Tell your hubby though, tell him why it was great and let him know that he can use Extenze without you judging him, that you'd rather enjoy it than care about why he's staying hard. It might bring you closer together.

And if not and you keep drugging him I hope the sex is well worth it :P

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