Tripping or Not????

[Anonymous]

 i am a thick, curvy woman....size 14. Df is attracted to bbw & ssbbw women..he denies it...says he just likes curves...I know he is attracted to this type of woman bc watches bbw porn & ssbbw..we watch porn together but never that! I find bbw porn in his phone any time that i pick it up (i have stopped doing that). He only has big girls on his fb page & he only requests big girls..he even likes their pages & pics (we are friends so I can see this) i have also seen sexual messages that he has sent to these big women (before we got together)...we have an amazing sex life..we fuck daily.sometimes twice or more a day...but why do he still find time to watch this bbw porn??..he says he doesnt mind if I lose wieght but i cant help but think he isnt attracted to me or that he is fantasing everytime we have sex....I feel like I should gain the weight I lost before i mean t him back.... I get insecure sometimes the other night he asked me to dance for him & clap my booty lol (its kinda big) but I started feeling insecure & thinking he wouldnt like it...idky

but how would u feel or am I wrong should I just let him have this fantasy? i have asked him about it ...it  had became a big issue at one point but he says he couldve gotten a big girl if he wanted & he loves me yadayadayada but i just dint get it

[Anonymous - Original Poster]

 I dont want to seem like i am going back and fourth with you but I have had that talk and we argued so bad i just feel like it would be beating a dead horse and i knkow he doesnt want to deal with it at this point im either going to have to learn to deal with it or leave the best man i have ever met..he does everything for me & puts me first. (long sigh) i have complained and cried about it months ago. I have gotten better with accepting it & enjoying the feelings that he loves me and is with me...never once cheated on me but i know if he had it his way i would be fatter

 

thanks by the way you are a great person to talk to

Quoting HookedDreamer:

That's not the most mature thing to do.  

I think if it's bothering you that much, then you need to confront him on it.  Let him know that it is making you insecure.  Just because they are bigger than you, your insecurity is valid.  I can see how some people would think that it's not as big of a deal since it's often the opposite situation.  So confront him.  Let him know that it is bother you and if he values your relationship he will seriously have a real talk with you.  Tell him that you understand him being turned on by it and his attraction, but also let him know that it is starting to hurt you and it will end up effecting your relationship and your intimacy with him.

Quoting Anonymous:

 None of them are my size...they are all bigger

you know what it makes me want to do>stare at bald, dark, short men...request them on fb and like all of their pictures and see if he likes it. then deny it when he asks...if he asks

may not be the right thing to do but i want to do it

 

[HookedDreamer]

I'm sorry :(

I know its a frustrating situation. If you're not willing to talk about it and you're trying to accept it then continue on that path. But why not make you his porn? Try taking some sexy pictures, make some videos, what ever, and see if he's willing to meet you halfway?

Big or thin, I don't feel like any one should feel insecure in their relationship. So just be happy with yourself and your relationship!! If it does continue to wear on you though, you're not wrong for confronting the situation again.

And thanks :)

Quoting Anonymous:

 I dont want to seem like i am going back and fourth with you but I have had that talk and we argued so bad i just feel like it would be beating a dead horse and i knkow he doesnt want to deal with it at this point im either going to have to learn to deal with it or leave the best man i have ever met..he does everything for me & puts me first. (long sigh) i have complained and cried about it months ago. I have gotten better with accepting it & enjoying the feelings that he loves me and is with me...never once cheated on me but i know if he had it his way i would be fatter

 

thanks by the way you are a great person to talk to

Quoting HookedDreamer:

That's not the most mature thing to do.  

I think if it's bothering you that much, then you need to confront him on it.  Let him know that it is making you insecure.  Just because they are bigger than you, your insecurity is valid.  I can see how some people would think that it's not as big of a deal since it's often the opposite situation.  So confront him.  Let him know that it is bother you and if he values your relationship he will seriously have a real talk with you.  Tell him that you understand him being turned on by it and his attraction, but also let him know that it is starting to hurt you and it will end up effecting your relationship and your intimacy with him.

Quoting Anonymous:

 None of them are my size...they are all bigger

you know what it makes me want to do>stare at bald, dark, short men...request them on fb and like all of their pictures and see if he likes it. then deny it when he asks...if he asks

may not be the right thing to do but i want to do it

 

[Hipp-Ee-Chik37]

Quoting samurai_chica:

bbw = big black women right? What is SSBBW?

bbw=big black women

ssbbw=super-size big black women