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What do you do when you really don't like sex?

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I really do not like sex. Never has. It's always been more of a burden than an enjoyable experience. My DH's sex drive has not decreased at all in the 16 years we've been together but mine sure has. It went from being a low sex drive to no sex drive and now to a "please, don't even try to touch me" sex drive.

I've tried to "have sex even when you don't want it" routine and that just led to me resenting him and caused a lot of problems.

No insurance so the doctor is out. I have an iud, the one without the hormones because the hormones in bc pills just made me mean and dropped my already non-existant sex drive even farther down the tubes.

Sleep would be great but the 9 month old baby has been keeping me up half the night. And even when I was getting good sleep, I still hated sex.

Counselors, therapists, doctors, etc all cost money we don't have right now.

I'm so tired of disappointing him but I really hate sex.

Posted by Anonymous on Oct. 5, 2012 at 1:57 AM
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jynkx
by on Oct. 5, 2012 at 3:41 AM

are you feeling "uptight" about anything that you are aware of?  i dont mean that in a "bad" way, but it should be at least somewhat enjoyable.  even if you arent reaching orgasm.

Quoting Anonymous:


Quoting jynkx:

what specifically is it that you do not like about sex?

Everything. I don't like the feel, the smell, the sounds. Sex just doesn't feel good to me.


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Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Oct. 5, 2012 at 3:44 AM
Do you have a free clinic where you could possibly be seen? How old are you? I get in my moods. But they don't last long. You need help momma. Are you attracted to your dh after all these years?
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jellybeanjean
by Bronze Member on Oct. 5, 2012 at 3:44 AM
I cant imagine not liking sex. My 7mo keeps me up and tired too but I still want it sometimes! Do u enjoy orgasm? Maybe u should play with yourself so you remember the sensation . Its good to relieve stress... Which u probably have a lot of.
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Oct. 5, 2012 at 3:45 AM


Quoting jynkx:

are you feeling "uptight" about anything that you are aware of?  i dont mean that in a "bad" way, but it should be at least somewhat enjoyable.  even if you arent reaching orgasm.

Quoting Anonymous:


Quoting jynkx:

what specifically is it that you do not like about sex?

Everything. I don't like the feel, the smell, the sounds. Sex just doesn't feel good to me.


No, it's not even enjoyable. Just normal stresses, you know, life.

jynkx
by on Oct. 5, 2012 at 3:46 AM

ok, so does it hurt when your hubbs fills you?  or is it a mental unenjoyment?

Quoting Anonymous:


Quoting jynkx:

are you feeling "uptight" about anything that you are aware of?  i dont mean that in a "bad" way, but it should be at least somewhat enjoyable.  even if you arent reaching orgasm.

Quoting Anonymous:


Quoting jynkx:

what specifically is it that you do not like about sex?

Everything. I don't like the feel, the smell, the sounds. Sex just doesn't feel good to me.


No, it's not even enjoyable. Just normal stresses, you know, life.


come follow me as i talk about all sorts of things! http://msjynkx.blogspot.com/

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Oct. 5, 2012 at 3:47 AM


Quoting Anonymous:

Do you have a free clinic where you could possibly be seen? How old are you? I get in my moods. But they don't last long. You need help momma. Are you attracted to your dh after all these years?

Don't know. I haven't looked. I don't talk about sex except here and only anon. I'm 36. Sexually attracted? I never was sexually attracted. Attracted? Yes, but in a more analytical/intellectual way.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Oct. 5, 2012 at 3:51 AM


Quoting jynkx:

ok, so does it hurt when your hubbs fills you?  or is it a mental unenjoyment?

Quoting Anonymous:


Quoting jynkx:

are you feeling "uptight" about anything that you are aware of?  i dont mean that in a "bad" way, but it should be at least somewhat enjoyable.  even if you arent reaching orgasm.

Quoting Anonymous:


Quoting jynkx:

what specifically is it that you do not like about sex?

Everything. I don't like the feel, the smell, the sounds. Sex just doesn't feel good to me.


No, it's not even enjoyable. Just normal stresses, you know, life.


it doesn't hurt. It doesn't anything. Really, I feel nothing down there, nothing that could be described as pleasurable or painful anyway. I mean, I feel him but that's it. Does that make sense?

Enjoyment, mental unenjoyment? I don't know. It's like numb. Except for when I'm tired then all I feel is "hurry up." lol

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Oct. 5, 2012 at 3:53 AM


Quoting jellybeanjean:

I cant imagine not liking sex. My 7mo keeps me up and tired too but I still want it sometimes! Do u enjoy orgasm? Maybe u should play with yourself so you remember the sensation . Its good to relieve stress... Which u probably have a lot of.

I don't orgasm. I don't feel anything with masterbation and do not like it anyway.

jellybeanjean
by Bronze Member on Oct. 5, 2012 at 3:56 AM
Oh wow. Well if I didn't orgasm I would hate sex too. ... You should definetly see a Dr about that.

Quoting Anonymous:


Quoting jellybeanjean:

I cant imagine not liking sex. My 7mo keeps me up and tired too but I still want it sometimes! Do u enjoy orgasm? Maybe u should play with yourself so you remember the sensation . Its good to relieve stress... Which u probably have a lot of.

I don't orgasm. I don't feel anything with masterbation and do not like it anyway.

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jynkx
by on Oct. 5, 2012 at 3:56 AM

that dosent sound fun :(    have you suffereed any abuse?  i saw your reply that you dont have medical for help, but have you looked into any free help in your area for womens sexual dysfunction?   dont feel bad about how you feel, its not uncommon.  but i do believe there is help.  sex is something that should be enjoyed by both parties.

Quoting Anonymous:


Quoting jynkx:

ok, so does it hurt when your hubbs fills you?  or is it a mental unenjoyment?

Quoting Anonymous:


Quoting jynkx:

are you feeling "uptight" about anything that you are aware of?  i dont mean that in a "bad" way, but it should be at least somewhat enjoyable.  even if you arent reaching orgasm.

Quoting Anonymous:


Quoting jynkx:

what specifically is it that you do not like about sex?

Everything. I don't like the feel, the smell, the sounds. Sex just doesn't feel good to me.


No, it's not even enjoyable. Just normal stresses, you know, life.


it doesn't hurt. It doesn't anything. Really, I feel nothing down there, nothing that could be described as pleasurable or painful anyway. I mean, I feel him but that's it. Does that make sense?

Enjoyment, mental unenjoyment? I don't know. It's like numb. Except for when I'm tired then all I feel is "hurry up." lol


come follow me as i talk about all sorts of things! http://msjynkx.blogspot.com/

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