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Pictures Falling Into The Wrong Hands HELP! UPDATE

Posted by Anonymous   + Show Post

Last night a man got hold of my phone and sent himself my personal pictures that were meant for SO.  This man is a close family friend and the same age as my parents.  He is also a regular customer at the bar I work at.  I've always trusted him up until last night.  I left my phone at the table where other family friends were sitting including my sister's MIL while I was dancing.  I never in my wildest dreams thought something like this would happen.   I haven't told anyone because I'm scared how it will effect relationships.  I feel violated, embarrassed, ashamed.  I'm so pissed at myself for being so stupid.  What do I do?

update:  I talked to SO.  I told him what happened and why I hadn't told him right away.  He said that I had nothing to be ashamed of and that he completely understood why I handled the situation like I did.  He just held me, let me cry and said everything would be ok. 

Posted by Anonymous on Oct. 7, 2012 at 11:54 AM
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lildensmom
by Member on Oct. 7, 2012 at 12:18 PM
Wow! That is so messed up and wrong on so many levels...... Im sorry, I dont know what to tell you. U should tell dh, but that could get really ugly... good luck and keep us posted..

Quoting Anonymous:

Yes he sent them to himself.  I realized when I had a text come thru and saw his name in my inbox.  I thought "that's strange.  I haven't text him tonight".  The last message was just a draft not actually sent.  I approached him and he tried to apologize and said he stopped because he realized it was wrong.  Then later as I was crying my eyes out I went to delete and that's when I noticed he has sent several to himself.  My face wasn't in any of them all but two were bra and panty pics.  He was sending me text all night begging forgiveness.

Quoting lildensmom:

How did you find out he looked at the pics since u were dancing. Did he send them to himself?


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Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Oct. 7, 2012 at 12:19 PM

I know that now.  I never locked it before because I didn't want SO to think I was hiding something.

Quoting NunezMom:

Lock your phone at all times..


Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Oct. 7, 2012 at 12:20 PM

I'm going to have to even though I don't want to.  If I start locking my phone he'll need to know why otherwise he'll really think something is up.

Quoting boshs1andonly:

this. if he finds out later, it will be that much harder for him to believe you didn't do it. 

Quoting prinzesa_edith:

Tell, your husband before he thinks you sent them to him



Army-Wife0128
by on Oct. 7, 2012 at 12:21 PM
I agree with everyone else. Tell ur dh so he knows if it ever pops up later on for some reason. He apologized alittle too late and after a few pics later...he knew what he was doing and apologized becaused you caught him. I would havr been furious because nkw that he has those pics who knows what he is going to do with them. He may be an older man but still doesn't mean he can't be dirty.
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PrOuDMaMaOf0611
by on Oct. 7, 2012 at 12:26 PM

Its noraml to not want to ruin other relationships this man has with others , but he was still wrong and it is a form of stealing, violation of your privacy. Have you brought this to the man that did this to? Do you have proof that he sent these pic to his phone? If so then I would def look into pressing charges. The people around have nothing to do with it and its technically non of their buisness, and for the meer fact , what would they do? As far as that this took place at your place of business, I would bring it up to the manager and find out what the rules are for this type of behavior and mabey this man cannot be aloud back in the bar. Also ... not to sound like a bitch or anything but make sure you lock your phone at all times. If you cant lock , upgrade the phone to where it has a lock or keep it on you at all times. Good luck , I am sorry that you were violated this way there this no REASON for this kind of action.

xoxRachelxox
by on Oct. 7, 2012 at 12:26 PM
I would let your SO know... next time delete the pictures! Or put a lock on your phone.
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Oct. 7, 2012 at 12:27 PM

I told him to delete them all or I would tell everyone what he did.  He swore he deleted them and even offered me his phone to check but I couldn't stand to look at him to get the phone (i was hiding in the office).  He just text me again saying sorry and that all the pictures are gone. 

Quoting Army-Wife0128:

I agree with everyone else. Tell ur dh so he knows if it ever pops up later on for some reason. He apologized alittle too late and after a few pics later...he knew what he was doing and apologized becaused you caught him. I would havr been furious because nkw that he has those pics who knows what he is going to do with them. He may be an older man but still doesn't mean he can't be dirty.


Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Oct. 7, 2012 at 12:30 PM
You know how I avoid that? I don't take nude or racy photos. Ever. And what happened to you is exactly why. I'm sorry he did that. That really sucks.
Army-Wife0128
by on Oct. 7, 2012 at 12:30 PM
He could have deleted them but how do you know he didn't send them to another acct. Sorry i just think of everything that could possibly happen. How horrible and now you can't look at him tje same way.


Quoting Anonymous:

I told him to delete them all or I would tell everyone what he did.  He swore he deleted them and even offered me his phone to check but I couldn't stand to look at him to get the phone (i was hiding in the office).  He just text me again saying sorry and that all the pictures are gone. 

Quoting Army-Wife0128:

I agree with everyone else. Tell ur dh so he knows if it ever pops up later on for some reason. He apologized alittle too late and after a few pics later...he knew what he was doing and apologized becaused you caught him. I would havr been furious because nkw that he has those pics who knows what he is going to do with them. He may be an older man but still doesn't mean he can't be dirty.



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Sarah_Moore
by on Oct. 7, 2012 at 12:30 PM
Get photovault as an app and tell your SO immediately.
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