My fault, not his.
I fight depression and have since I was in middle school. I was sexually abused from as far back as I can remember till 12.
I enjoy sex with bf but when the depression is kicking full force, my sex drive is gone. We have sex about 2-3 times a month and that just so he stops bitching lol.
I love him with all my heart and this is a big issue with us. I just don't know what to do.
I've tried having a few glasses of wine before bed, sending kids to grandma's and its no help.
Any ideas on what would help?
we don't have the extra $ for my meds which is about 100$.
Writing in a notebook is the same. But yes I still deal with that.
Quoting chloemom531:
Counseling... cuz u still have some inner issues good luck
Then my mom. We started coun when I was 17.
As the years went by it got easier to talk about.
After a few years the depression got so bad I thought about driving my car off a bridge :(
That's when I got on meds.
After my 3rd baby 2 years ago, I ended up with post pardom (sp?)
Quoting Nicki1995:
Counseling really doesnt help anything lol You could try writing in a journal everyday. Just write anything that bothers you and how your day was and whatever else you want to write. Have you talked to anyone about what happened?
Quoting maengle:
My ex husband was the first person I told.
Then my mom. We started coun when I was 17.
As the years went by it got easier to talk about.
After a few years the depression got so bad I thought about driving my car off a bridge :(
That's when I got on meds.
After my 3rd baby 2 years ago, I ended up with post pardom (sp?)
Quoting Nicki1995:
Counseling really doesnt help anything lol You could try writing in a journal everyday. Just write anything that bothers you and how your day was and whatever else you want to write. Have you talked to anyone about what happened?
Quoting maengle:
My bf and I are having issues in the bedroom.
My fault, not his.
I fight depression and have since I was in middle school. I was sexually abused from as far back as I can remember till 12.
I enjoy sex with bf but when the depression is kicking full force, my sex drive is gone. We have sex about 2-3 times a month and that just so he stops bitching lol.
I love him with all my heart and this is a big issue with us. I just don't know what to do.
I've tried having a few glasses of wine before bed, sending kids to grandma's and its no help.
Any ideas on what would help?
we don't have the extra $ for my meds which is about 100$.
you need to go to the doc and have your meds adjusted...if you can't afford your meds, many pharmacal companies give free meds to patients( you may have to fill out some forms, statements of income etc)..also ask do for professional samples from your doctor..they can get ahold of their drug regs and make sure you have the amount you need..
drinking wine/beer/whatever will only highten your depression since alcohol is a depressant..
Does bf know about your abuse issues causing distance in the bedroom?
Quoting maengle:
My bf and I are having issues in the bedroom.
My fault, not his.
I fight depression and have since I was in middle school. I was sexually abused from as far back as I can remember till 12.
I enjoy sex with bf but when the depression is kicking full force, my sex drive is gone. We have sex about 2-3 times a month and that just so he stops bitching lol.
I love him with all my heart and this is a big issue with us. I just don't know what to do.
I've tried having a few glasses of wine before bed, sending kids to grandma's and its no help.
Any ideas on what would help?
we don't have the extra $ for my meds which is about 100$.
Wow...hearing your quick story hits home for me! Other than currently having issues in the bedroom with DH tho. I don't have that issue!
But I too went thur pretty much every category of abuse there is. Sexual, physical, mental, emotional and so on and mine was from as young as I could remember also. Pretty much until my father was on his death bed! Which was my early age of 15! My father was a big scary guy and my parents together had 6 kids so he'd threaten me with guilt of breaking up our family if I ever told anyone, amongst other shit he would say! I was so afraid of him that even knowing he wasn't going to make it thur the night and given a chance to go in and say a final good bye...I STILL didn't have the strength or courage to confront him. All i did was sit beside the hospital bed crying! I didn't understand why I was crying at the time but looking back now I know why!
I was also diagnosed a Manic depressive years ago! I tried there counseling and that didn't do anything! Than they wanted to put me on pills too but addiction runs in my family and I didn't even want to risk that!
So I over came things by writing it out and self medicating pretty much! And it helped me A LOT!!!! I've over came so much shit in my life that honestly..sometimes I wonder how I'm still standing, to be truthful! I'd be happy to talk one on one if you feel up to it!
I am so sorry so for what happened to you in the past, but you are now responsible for children, so please stop the relationship. Do you have time to walk alone? Can you start? If so, because you can't afford the meds., walking would really help. Especailly, if you can get 40 min. at least 4 to 5 times a week. You really need the alone time, WALKING. Maybe, in a year you can start dating again. But, first you need to clear your head. Do you like Dr. Laura Shishinger(sp). Her books are great to help you overcome your past. My heart does go out to you. You will be in thoughts.
I'm crying over sex : (
- maengle
on Nov. 18, 2012 at 9:19 AM