how to get him out of routine?

[Anonymous]

Okay so my bf is the greatest man on the planet all around. But m use to dominant men. I like rough sex. And he either wants him on top or me on top and is super gentle with me. How do u ask him to be rough? Lke throw me around pull my hair spank me choke me haha i feel wierd even bringing it up cause its always just been a factor. Like sex is still good i get an orgasm its just not the same. Any ideas?

[ChrissyL90]

 Talk to him let him know what you like and how you like it.  The best sex is when each of you can talk about it together.

[Anonymous]

 Say hey baby Lke throw me around pull my hair spank me choke me haha i feel wierd even bringing it up to him! Don't overthink it, just say it! Liquid courage also helps me get those words and fantasies out and I'm always oh so glad I did!

[BShip2010]

Tell him!

[ibelieveinpink]

Say it during sex. The next time you're in doggy style say, "Spank me, please!" Afterwords tell him how much you enjoyed it. The next time you're at it, ask him to choke you and so on.... Introduce something new every time.

[SharonHernandez]

Tell him that you enjoy your sex but you just wish he was more dominant and he made you his little bitch.
I'm just kidding don't say that last part. Just tell him what you'd like. I'm so glad my boyfriend is like that. I love rough sex, sometimes he's too rough but I like it ;)

[Anonymous]

"Honey, I'd like to discuss our sexual dynamic."

[Nicki1995]

When you are getting him in the mood, get kindda rough with him so that maybe he will do it back. Or when he starts playing with you before you actually start with sex tell him "mmm i like it rough" and he doesnt do anything then you have to actually tell him "spank me" or since you said something about choking, guide his hand up to your neck. I like the same things, and my hubby does what i like lol ;)

[emmaj09]

I just went through similar with my dh. The first time I tried to bring it up he was super resistant because the thought of hurting me scared him. I explained that while I loved him being all gentle and he was amazing that sometimes I wanted to be taken. I told him that it didn't have to be to an extreme. We took it slow and found some sites that helped give him ideas. And that opened up all new things to try. We are closer than ever.

It can be scary to talk about what you want but it's worth it. Just remember men are fragile creatures so don't hurt his ego or you will find him more resistant. Maybe say something like he makes you so hot you just can't stop fantasizing about him throwing you up against a wall and taking you.

[hippiechik3]

Some guys feel weird doing that. He might be one of those guys if you ask him to an he dont. If you dont wanna talk to him about it, try provoking him by teasing him till he cant take it an see how that goes. mmm Make him take what he wants.

[Andrewsmom70]

Just talk to him about it but not while in the moment. Be very complimentary of what he already does that you like and tell him that you'd like him to add to the stuff y'all do. Make it as casual and not critical and you'll be fine.