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wanting to change things and spice them up but kinda scared...

Anonymous
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We usually do the same thing every time. For 2 years now.. I want to spice it up. But I'm so freakin scared. I would love to dance in lingerie but I feel like id have 2 be drunk first. That's the only time I'm comfortable enough to do anything.. I'm so uncomfortable with myself I feel like id be a turn off instead of a turn on. The things he likes in a girl(the girls in his porn) has big asses big tits and me well let's say I have no ass and get real I've got two kids so things upstairs r saggy. But lingerie?? I have bougt some but wearing them is a different story.. I want him to go crazy with wat I do I know wat he likes but I want him to want me so baxd he can't stand it(like when we r drinkn). So wat do I do get him drunk? I want his butt sober and want me. I've been youtubing and googling how to be sexy(lame) but damn I'm willing to try anything.... any advise? Or things to do to drive him nuts? He is weird never had this problem b4 he says its cuz he is black I say its cuz he is weird lol
Posted by Anonymous on Nov. 19, 2012 at 6:55 PM
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Kitschy
by on Nov. 19, 2012 at 6:57 PM
Don't let him touch you at all until you feel he's going to lose it. Or you can touch him, but he can't touch you. Restraints maybe?
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Andrewsmom70
by Bronze Member on Nov. 19, 2012 at 7:01 PM
Have you asked what he might want you to do?

A lot of times I send a text to my guy and ask how he wants me when he's on his way home. :-)

You've got to be less critical of yourself. If he still wants to have sex with you, he is ok with your body. We are our own worst critics.
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Nov. 19, 2012 at 7:02 PM
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With the lingerie, buy a teddy type (I just got a super cute lace one with a padded bra so you can't see the saggy boobs in it ;) ) outfit with a thong and put it on. Walk out into the living him, straddle him, and just start kissing him and then go down and give him some oral. When he is good and hard, straddle him again, guide him into you and fuck him like never before.You don't have to dance or put on a big show. You will still look sexy, you will be initiating it, and he will love it. 

If he weren't attracted to you, he wouldn't be with you. Stop comparing yourself to porn girls. Those girls are fantasy, you are real. You matter; not them. 

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Nov. 19, 2012 at 7:04 PM
I think guys will have sex with anything though as long as they get there's.. from wat I've experienced as long as its wet it will b ok;( lol not from me I've never cared wat anyone else thought but him I care a lot... but I. Am so nervous.. maybe that's y sex don't change he senses my insecurites? Idk but wat do I do.. shit I'm 25 I should know this but I dont
Nicki1995
by on Nov. 19, 2012 at 7:12 PM
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Lingerie, restraints, Lap dance. You have got this girl! You can do it. You just have to relax and think about how amazing this is going to be for both of you. If it makes you feel better, dim the lights or turn the lights off and just have a few candles lit ;)
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by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Nov. 19, 2012 at 7:14 PM
now that I could do;) lol btw I let him pick out the lingerie I have but I'm not been confident enough to wear it.. not like he don't see me naked every day but if I don't turn him on and I feel hye don't like it it may affect our relationship;( ahhhhhhh
Andrewsmom70
by Bronze Member on Nov. 19, 2012 at 7:19 PM
If he picks the lingerie out, he wants to see you in it. :-)
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Nov. 19, 2012 at 7:22 PM
True ;) but lord think I will have 2 take a couple shots first.. that always makes us better.. last time he recored it... but shit shit I wanjted it sober...
MrsRinehart2010
by on Nov. 19, 2012 at 7:24 PM

 i dont knwo Im the same way

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