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Anonymous
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Well, I do initiate sometimes. But my turn on is when he is being forceful, even a little bit. Him wanting me is what gets me hot. So when he doesn't make any moves, I will go weeks without sex. I know he'd also like me to initiate, but it honestly feels like he's just lazy. 

So I'm at a catch 22- either I don't initiate and I don't have sex, or I do, and it's just okay. The last time we had sex, he seriously acted like he was over it in the middle of all of it. Like, we were going at it for 20 minutes or so, and then I hopped back on, and he's like "again?" in a very irritating tone. It was such a turn off. But I wanted to finish, so I kept going. But it wasn't good at all. It was very blah. And I'd rather just get off myself when he's gone than have blah sex. It really sucks. I have dreams about good sex. lol

Posted by Anonymous on Dec. 4, 2012 at 8:44 PM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Dec. 4, 2012 at 9:06 PM
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I hate intiating

Kristanna
by on Dec. 4, 2012 at 9:43 PM

 I have to have a dominate man in bed, I hate initiating too.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Dec. 4, 2012 at 9:52 PM
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I understand completely! I hate initiating!! Its not that I'm lazy, I just only get turned on if he comes onto me. And it has to be forceful like he really wants it.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Dec. 5, 2012 at 9:25 AM

I'm so glad I'm not the only one. These replies kinda made my morning in a weird way. lol

Anonymous
by Anonymous 4 on Dec. 5, 2012 at 9:27 AM
Are you married?


Quoting Anonymous:

Well, I do initiate sometimes. But my turn on is when he is being forceful, even a little bit. Him wanting me is what gets me hot. So when he doesn't make any moves, I will go weeks without sex. I know he'd also like me to initiate, but it honestly feels like he's just lazy. 

So I'm at a catch 22- either I don't initiate and I don't have sex, or I do, and it's just okay. The last time we had sex, he seriously acted like he was over it in the middle of all of it. Like, we were going at it for 20 minutes or so, and then I hopped back on, and he's like "again?" in a very irritating tone. It was such a turn off. But I wanted to finish, so I kept going. But it wasn't good at all. It was very blah. And I'd rather just get off myself when he's gone than have blah sex. It really sucks. I have dreams about good sex. lol


Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Dec. 5, 2012 at 9:30 AM

yes. We've been together for 6 years, married for 3.

Quoting Anonymous:

Are you married?


Quoting Anonymous:

Well, I do initiate sometimes. But my turn on is when he is being forceful, even a little bit. Him wanting me is what gets me hot. So when he doesn't make any moves, I will go weeks without sex. I know he'd also like me to initiate, but it honestly feels like he's just lazy. 

So I'm at a catch 22- either I don't initiate and I don't have sex, or I do, and it's just okay. The last time we had sex, he seriously acted like he was over it in the middle of all of it. Like, we were going at it for 20 minutes or so, and then I hopped back on, and he's like "again?" in a very irritating tone. It was such a turn off. But I wanted to finish, so I kept going. But it wasn't good at all. It was very blah. And I'd rather just get off myself when he's gone than have blah sex. It really sucks. I have dreams about good sex. lol



kary1124
by on Dec. 5, 2012 at 9:30 AM
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i understand.. but i dont mind initiating thou.. i like it a bit more when he does but if im wanting it bad enough ill start it or if i wanna give him a bj i just go for it, i dont wait for him to ask for it

Anonymous
by Anonymous 5 on Dec. 5, 2012 at 9:31 AM
I'm not allowed to initiate - it freaks him out. Unfortunately he only wants it once a week at most so I have to wait for him. It does not matter what I do - I just have to be patient. It's incredibly frustrating and we've even been to a sex therapist. Sigh.
Nicki1995
by on Dec. 5, 2012 at 9:32 AM
I dont mind initiating. I love it when my husband gets rough with it though. We both initiate like...everyday. And everytime is AMAZING
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by Anonymous 4 on Dec. 5, 2012 at 9:33 AM
Hmmm. When you go weeks without it, does he kiss or compliment you? Do you have kids?


Quoting Anonymous:

yes. We've been together for 6 years, married for 3.

Quoting Anonymous:

Are you married?





Quoting Anonymous:

Well, I do initiate sometimes. But my turn on is when he is being forceful, even a little bit. Him wanting me is what gets me hot. So when he doesn't make any moves, I will go weeks without sex. I know he'd also like me to initiate, but it honestly feels like he's just lazy. 

So I'm at a catch 22- either I don't initiate and I don't have sex, or I do, and it's just okay. The last time we had sex, he seriously acted like he was over it in the middle of all of it. Like, we were going at it for 20 minutes or so, and then I hopped back on, and he's like "again?" in a very irritating tone. It was such a turn off. But I wanted to finish, so I kept going. But it wasn't good at all. It was very blah. And I'd rather just get off myself when he's gone than have blah sex. It really sucks. I have dreams about good sex. lol





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