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Dh told me he can cum in like 2 mins when he is masturbating but it takes at least 10 when we are having sex. Why is this? What am I doing wrong?
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by on Dec. 6, 2012 at 9:50 AM
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EthansMomma2010
by on Dec. 6, 2012 at 10:16 AM
Isn't orgasm the definition of pleasing?

Quoting badgermom1257:

Emotional bonding as well as physical.

Pleasing my DH is one part of our relationship I can control.


Quoting EthansMomma2010:

How so?



Quoting Anonymous:

That's sad. Sex is more than just orgasm.







Quoting EthansMomma2010:

If he would do what I tell him I would be done in 2 mins too. I hate long sex.







Quoting Anonymous:

You really want him to only last 2 minutes with you??
Maybe he is holding back on purpose to satisfy you - or make the moment last longer.




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badgermom1257
by Silver Member on Dec. 6, 2012 at 10:30 AM
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I guess, if that is the extent of your physical relationship.

I enjoy the closeness and cuddling after sex, but the sex is important too. 

The kissing, touching and holding means a lot to me and I don't look at a clock to see how much time has passed.

So if 2 minutes is good for you, so be it.

Quoting EthansMomma2010:

Isn't orgasm the definition of pleasing?

Quoting badgermom1257:

Emotional bonding as well as physical.

Pleasing my DH is one part of our relationship I can control.


Quoting EthansMomma2010:

How so?



Quoting Anonymous:

That's sad. Sex is more than just orgasm.







Quoting EthansMomma2010:

If he would do what I tell him I would be done in 2 mins too. I hate long sex.







Quoting Anonymous:

You really want him to only last 2 minutes with you??
Maybe he is holding back on purpose to satisfy you - or make the moment last longer.





Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Dec. 6, 2012 at 10:33 AM
Exactly.


Quoting badgermom1257:

I guess, if that is the extent of your physical relationship.

I enjoy the closeness and cuddling after sex, but the sex is important too. 

The kissing, touching and holding means a lot to me and I don't look at a clock to see how much time has passed.

So if 2 minutes is good for you, so be it.


Quoting EthansMomma2010:

Isn't orgasm the definition of pleasing?



Quoting badgermom1257:

Emotional bonding as well as physical.

Pleasing my DH is one part of our relationship I can control.



Quoting EthansMomma2010:

How so?





Quoting Anonymous:

That's sad. Sex is more than just orgasm.










Quoting EthansMomma2010:

If he would do what I tell him I would be done in 2 mins too. I hate long sex.









Quoting Anonymous:

You really want him to only last 2 minutes with you??
Maybe he is holding back on purpose to satisfy you - or make the moment last longer.







MamaSwan001
by on Dec. 6, 2012 at 10:36 AM

Um what's wrong with that? I like a man who can last longer durring sex. When he is masturbating and haveing sex with you it is two different things when he is masturbating he is just trying to get the orgasm he wants and be done but with you he is wanting to satisfy you and take pleasure in feeling you.

EthansMomma2010
by on Dec. 6, 2012 at 10:57 AM
Well we cuddle afterwards and there is always kissing and hugging going on as part of our day. But actual sex just doesn't need to take long IMO. To me our whole day is foreplay so when we get the chance to have sex it just doesn't need to be long.

Quoting badgermom1257:

I guess, if that is the extent of your physical relationship.

I enjoy the closeness and cuddling after sex, but the sex is important too. 

The kissing, touching and holding means a lot to me and I don't look at a clock to see how much time has passed.

So if 2 minutes is good for you, so be it.


Quoting EthansMomma2010:

Isn't orgasm the definition of pleasing?



Quoting badgermom1257:

Emotional bonding as well as physical.

Pleasing my DH is one part of our relationship I can control.



Quoting EthansMomma2010:

How so?





Quoting Anonymous:

That's sad. Sex is more than just orgasm.










Quoting EthansMomma2010:

If he would do what I tell him I would be done in 2 mins too. I hate long sex.









Quoting Anonymous:

You really want him to only last 2 minutes with you??
Maybe he is holding back on purpose to satisfy you - or make the moment last longer.






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MrsRi
by on Dec. 6, 2012 at 10:58 AM

It's probably nothing, he just doesn't have to focus on you when he's handling things on his own.  When he's with you he wants to focus on bringing you pleasure as well.

craftygrl
by on Dec. 6, 2012 at 11:06 AM


Quoting EthansMomma2010:

Dh told me he can cum in like 2 mins when he is masturbating but it takes at least 10 when we are having sex. Why is this? What am I doing wrong?

Trust me you don't want him to cum in 2 mins..... :(

EthansMomma2010
by on Dec. 6, 2012 at 11:06 AM
I feel like that must be so burdensome. I want him to just focus on his pleasure

Quoting MrsRi:

It's probably nothing, he just doesn't have to focus on you when he's handling things on his own.  When he's with you he wants to focus on bringing you pleasure as well.

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Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Dec. 6, 2012 at 11:07 AM
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Idk its always quicker for me to do it myself then him , but not as enjoyable
Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Dec. 6, 2012 at 4:12 PM
I agree. It's a different feeling


Quoting Anonymous:

Idk its always quicker for me to do it myself then him , but not as enjoyable

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