My husband and I are 14 years apart. I am 22 and he is 39. I am wanting sex about 1-2 a week and my husnad just don't want to have sex anymore. I will go weeks w/out having any. What would be a way to get my husand to want to have sex with me more? He tells me that I want to have sex everyday and I told him if you would give it to me more often then 1-2 a month I wouldn't want it all the time.
I have tried toys and for some reason they just don't do anything for me. I don't nag per say I just try and he pushes me away. I understand that he works early in the monring and is tired and that we have a 2 year old we have to work around but it seems like he just isn't intersted anymore and there are times I just don't think he is intersted in me anymore. Have you ever felt like that?
Quoting MileeH:well, I just bought myself some new toys ;) www.pinkcherry.com ! < life saver lol. I am actually trying to get him to have more sex but idk it's just not working.. but something I have noticed with him is that if I wake him up with a bj, we go at it..(Ask him a few nights before just so hes not weirded out LOL!) & another thing is if you stop nagging. (That was unbelievably hard for me) hahah. But it worked!
I have actually talked to my hubby about something like that he don't want to "share" me with anyone else!!!!
Quoting Anonymous:
Same boat. I just picked up a girl friend. (I'm bi and he knows and is ok with it, was actually his idea). Actually, the more I get from her, the more I am seeing him interested! Our sex life has improved dramatically. Over the past 3 months. I get it 1-2 times a week now ! Barely have to use my girlfriend for sex anymore.
Quoting landen1229:I have tried toys and for some reason they just don't do anything for me. I don't nag per say I just try and he pushes me away. I understand that he works early in the monring and is tired and that we have a 2 year old we have to work around but it seems like he just isn't intersted anymore and there are times I just don't think he is intersted in me anymore. Have you ever felt like that?
Quoting MileeH:well, I just bought myself some new toys ;) www.pinkcherry.com ! < life saver lol. I am actually trying to get him to have more sex but idk it's just not working.. but something I have noticed with him is that if I wake him up with a bj, we go at it..(Ask him a few nights before just so hes not weirded out LOL!) & another thing is if you stop nagging. (That was unbelievably hard for me) hahah. But it worked!
Quoting landen1229:I have actually talked to my hubby about something like that he don't want to "share" me with anyone else!!!!
Quoting Anonymous:
Same boat. I just picked up a girl friend. (I'm bi and he knows and is ok with it, was actually his idea). Actually, the more I get from her, the more I am seeing him interested! Our sex life has improved dramatically. Over the past 3 months. I get it 1-2 times a week now ! Barely have to use my girlfriend for sex anymore.
I understand that he has to work to support his family but I guess I feel like he is forgetting about my needs. It really pisses me off when he wants sex I HAVE to give it to him but when I want it I have to wait for him.
I am so glad I am not the only one who is having this problem....
Quoting baquick:
Yes :-/. Between our 2yr old, his day shift and my evening shift it just sucked. Not sure what changed, but the last couple months have been better than the last couple years.
Quoting landen1229:I have tried toys and for some reason they just don't do anything for me. I don't nag per say I just try and he pushes me away. I understand that he works early in the monring and is tired and that we have a 2 year old we have to work around but it seems like he just isn't intersted anymore and there are times I just don't think he is intersted in me anymore. Have you ever felt like that?
Quoting MileeH:well, I just bought myself some new toys ;) www.pinkcherry.com ! < life saver lol. I am actually trying to get him to have more sex but idk it's just not working.. but something I have noticed with him is that if I wake him up with a bj, we go at it..(Ask him a few nights before just so hes not weirded out LOL!) & another thing is if you stop nagging. (That was unbelievably hard for me) hahah. But it worked!
I have asked him questions and things like that he always says either I don't know, or that he is tried every night and just don't feel like it. I also have told him (nicly) that you can't let work ruin our marriage and just don't seem to care or atleast to me he don't.
Yes, I actually still feel like that when I get rejected.. Maybe sit him down and ask "So hunny, why is it that you don't want to have sex" or something like, "Look, I know you work early in the morning and we have our son/daughter. But I do think that we need some loving time. I think we should put aside one day of the week and have our time. That way I am not ambushing you and I am getting some." Idk put it in your own words but whatever you do don't blame him EX. "You don't love me" or "You think I'm ugly" :P
Quoting landen1229:I have tried toys and for some reason they just don't do anything for me. I don't nag per say I just try and he pushes me away. I understand that he works early in the monring and is tired and that we have a 2 year old we have to work around but it seems like he just isn't intersted anymore and there are times I just don't think he is intersted in me anymore. Have you ever felt like that?
Quoting MileeH:well, I just bought myself some new toys ;) www.pinkcherry.com ! < life saver lol. I am actually trying to get him to have more sex but idk it's just not working.. but something I have noticed with him is that if I wake him up with a bj, we go at it..(Ask him a few nights before just so hes not weirded out LOL!) & another thing is if you stop nagging. (That was unbelievably hard for me) hahah. But it worked!
I have asked him maybe about a threesome and he just flat out told me NO...
Quoting Anonymous:
Mine knew I was bi when we started dating, so maybe that's why he was open to the idea. Plus, I brought her into our bedroom first before going out on my own. At first he didn't want to share me either, but after his first threesome he was ok with it.
Quoting landen1229:I have actually talked to my hubby about something like that he don't want to "share" me with anyone else!!!!
Quoting Anonymous:
Same boat. I just picked up a girl friend. (I'm bi and he knows and is ok with it, was actually his idea). Actually, the more I get from her, the more I am seeing him interested! Our sex life has improved dramatically. Over the past 3 months. I get it 1-2 times a week now ! Barely have to use my girlfriend for sex anymore.
Quoting landen1229:I understand that he has to work to support his family but I guess I feel like he is forgetting about my needs. It really pisses me off when he wants sex I HAVE to give it to him but when I want it I have to wait for him.
I am so glad I am not the only one who is having this problem....
Quoting baquick:
Yes :-/. Between our 2yr old, his day shift and my evening shift it just sucked. Not sure what changed, but the last couple months have been better than the last couple years.
Quoting landen1229:I have tried toys and for some reason they just don't do anything for me. I don't nag per say I just try and he pushes me away. I understand that he works early in the monring and is tired and that we have a 2 year old we have to work around but it seems like he just isn't intersted anymore and there are times I just don't think he is intersted in me anymore. Have you ever felt like that?
Quoting MileeH:well, I just bought myself some new toys ;) www.pinkcherry.com ! < life saver lol. I am actually trying to get him to have more sex but idk it's just not working.. but something I have noticed with him is that if I wake him up with a bj, we go at it..(Ask him a few nights before just so hes not weirded out LOL!) & another thing is if you stop nagging. (That was unbelievably hard for me) hahah. But it worked!
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- landen1229
on Dec. 7, 2012 at 12:13 AM