he's not putting out
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I'm 25, he's 30, we have a 16 month old and we will go weeks with out sex.
He works 6 days a week and goes to bed early. I feel too young to be feeling so old.
I feel rejected and I also feel like he doesn't initiate sex like he used to. While pregnant I had no drive to have sex, so I would decline his advances. Now I feel like it's pay back. I don't know what to do. I sometimes feel like he's just uninterested in me now.
What do I do?
Time to break the cycle! Rule #1- given the chance, your DH will choose an orgasm over everything else. Rule #'s 2-100 don't matter.
1. When DH is in the shower, without saying a word, take your clothes off, climb in with him and tell him you're going to wash him. Then do it giving particular attention to his you-know-what. If he asks what you're doing, just tell him, "shhhhhh. I need to get you clean."
2. When he's in bed, tell him you just need to give him a BJ and then get busy. When/if he says he's not interested, just say, "you misunderstood. This isn't for you. It's for me. I need to do this. Just be still" Then continue.
3. If you've been coming to bed wearing clothes, it's time to be naked in bed.
Betcha things turn around in a hurry.
Don't get discouraged. Men don't understand how their actions can make us feel. Try talking to him about it first because you can't make judgements without knowing exactly how he feels. If he didnt know he was making you feel this way then he will try harder. Maybe he is super tired, or something else is going on. At my husbands last job the stress got so bad he had a panic attack and he is one of the most laid back people I know. But months before it peeked at that we barely had sex. Good luck!
Find urself a sweet girl and have some play time with just the two of u
LMAO! Yep this works everytime. I think sometimes men have a lot feelings than we give them credit for . Maybe he doesnt want to "bother" you or maybe his pride is hurt. Fairfieldwizard is 100 percent right on with this post. A little bit of this and he will come back begging ,,,,, promise.
Quoting Fairfieldwizard:Time to break the cycle! Rule #1- given the chance, your DH will choose an orgasm over everything else. Rule #'s 2-100 don't matter.
1. When DH is in the shower, without saying a word, take your clothes off, climb in with him and tell him you're going to wash him. Then do it giving particular attention to his you-know-what. If he asks what you're doing, just tell him, "shhhhhh. I need to get you clean."
2. When he's in bed, tell him you just need to give him a BJ and then get busy. When/if he says he's not interested, just say, "you misunderstood. This isn't for you. It's for me. I need to do this. Just be still" Then continue.
3. If you've been coming to bed wearing clothes, it's time to be naked in bed.
Betcha things turn around in a hurry.
yep!
Quoting Fairfieldwizard:Time to break the cycle! Rule #1- given the chance, your DH will choose an orgasm over everything else. Rule #'s 2-100 don't matter.
1. When DH is in the shower, without saying a word, take your clothes off, climb in with him and tell him you're going to wash him. Then do it giving particular attention to his you-know-what. If he asks what you're doing, just tell him, "shhhhhh. I need to get you clean."
2. When he's in bed, tell him you just need to give him a BJ and then get busy. When/if he says he's not interested, just say, "you misunderstood. This isn't for you. It's for me. I need to do this. Just be still" Then continue.
3. If you've been coming to bed wearing clothes, it's time to be naked in bed.
Betcha things turn around in a hurry.
Quoting Anonymous:How much does he work? How much sleep does he get at night? When he comes home from work does he then have to do things around the house? Are you a SAHM?
Quoting Fairfieldwizard:Time to break the cycle! Rule #1- given the chance, your DH will choose an orgasm over everything else. Rule #'s 2-100 don't matter.
1. When DH is in the shower, without saying a word, take your clothes off, climb in with him and tell him you're going to wash him. Then do it giving particular attention to his you-know-what. If he asks what you're doing, just tell him, "shhhhhh. I need to get you clean."
2. When he's in bed, tell him you just need to give him a BJ and then get busy. When/if he says he's not interested, just say, "you misunderstood. This isn't for you. It's for me. I need to do this. Just be still" Then continue.
3. If you've been coming to bed wearing clothes, it's time to be naked in bed.
Betcha things turn around in a hurry.
a glass of wine....(;