I had a breast reduction and dh wants nothing to do with me now :(

[Anonymous]

It's been about 2.5 months since I went from a HUGH 38K down to I think a C cup maybe a D.  I haven't been measured yet.  My reduction took off 7lbs and I had to have a nipple graft done... meaning they removed my nippled and grafted it back on.  The nipples have no feeling and look... odd.  Flat, splochy...

We've had sex twice.  The first time it had been almost 2 months since the surgery.  It was dark so he didn't see, but he took one feel and said "I don't like small boobs"  and then a few minutes later he tells me that maybe if I loose more weight in my stomach the boobs will look better.  (I've lost 60lbs and have about 45 more to go) 

He's really not insensitive so much as he is tactless.

It really upset me!  It's kind of worst case senerio aside from loosing the nipples all together.  I feel like he is no longer attracted to me :(

Any advice or suggestions to help me through this? 

[Clynn301]

I'm really not one who advises being overly concerned about how you look to your man. It may be an adjustment over time but if he really loves you he'll love you with small or big boobs, not that I think c or d cups are small.

[Kelee89]

I agree I think it would be an adjustment for both of you. If it bothers you and hurts your feelings I would tell him, especially if he is not usually insensitive. 

[starreyedcutie]

Sit him down and tell him how you feel and how what he is saying makes you feel. What a jerk I'm sorry...but he needs to think before he talks :( hugs

[tinnaa2000]

Hugs

[goodmama85]

this :( *hugs*

Quoting starreyedcutie:

Sit him down and tell him how you feel and how what he is saying makes you feel. What a jerk I'm sorry...but he needs to think before he talks :( hugs

[coupon_ash_back]

Wow superficial much? Just say I don't like small penises.

[Debby29681]

I have found that trying to talk it out with someone this insensitive ends up hurting even more. Just lay down the law. This is you and you are comfortable and sexier than ever.

Quoting starreyedcutie:

Sit him down and tell him how you feel and how what he is saying makes you feel. What a jerk I'm sorry...but he needs to think before he talks :( hugs

[ariesmom20]

Smh c or d aren't small. I have a d and I miss when I had normal sized boobs.

[Anonymous]

D's are small boobs??! Wow your husband sounds like a dick...

[Anonymous]

Wow. He sounds like a douche bag. I'd tell him to fuck himself from now on.