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Am I overdoing it for my BF?

Anonymous
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My boyfriend and I have been together about 2 years. We just moved in together along with my kids. Since we have moved in, I feel like as the woman it is my job to do the normal cleaning, cooking (unless it is his days off then he will cook without me asking him too), etc. I have also been making him a lunch to take to work and he says that he really appreciates it and eats it. I also do his laundry and hang it up, etc. So...am I over doing it? Just want to make sure I am not so he doesn't' get pissed or smothered.

Posted by Anonymous on Jan. 14, 2013 at 1:26 PM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Jan. 14, 2013 at 1:28 PM

I sure could use you around here.

aimhawk
by on Jan. 14, 2013 at 1:28 PM

Those things and more are what I do in my household and for my husband.

Mama2ETA
by on Jan. 14, 2013 at 1:29 PM

 I do those things for my dh.. Do you work or stay home? I don't think you're smothering him. I think it sounds like he's grateful.

thecoffeefairy
by on Jan. 14, 2013 at 1:30 PM
Do whatever feels natural to you. Just be open to constructive criticism if he offers any.
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Valo446
by on Jan. 14, 2013 at 1:31 PM

I do the same for my fiance. Just make sure he knows that you are doing it cause you love him and want to. I was starting to feel like my fiance expected it from me. 

coupon_ash_back
by on Jan. 14, 2013 at 1:32 PM
Ask him. Just make sure you aren't acting like a mother.
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jan. 14, 2013 at 1:35 PM

What are some things that would represent that?

Quoting coupon_ash_back:

Ask him. Just make sure you aren't acting like a mother.


coupon_ash_back
by on Jan. 14, 2013 at 1:37 PM
It's different for everyone. What one man may find overbearing,another could be grateful for it.

Quoting Anonymous:

What are some things that would represent that?


Quoting coupon_ash_back:

Ask him. Just make sure you aren't acting like a mother.


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Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jan. 14, 2013 at 1:41 PM

I work full time as well as him.  However, I do this stuff for myself and the kids so i just include him in it. 

Quoting Mama2ETA:

 I do those things for my dh.. Do you work or stay home? I don't think you're smothering him. I think it sounds like he's grateful.


1der1
by on Jan. 14, 2013 at 2:11 PM

BUMP!

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