I NEED ADVICE !!Question about boyfriend watching Porn ..

[babiigyalraya93]

Would you be upset if u see alot of porn in your s/o recent history on his laptop.... 

i came across it and i feel very upset about it 

How would you address him in the situation ?? 

or is it not a big deal

[first12jump]

http://www.cafemom.com/group/115179/forums/read/17914055/Nervous_about_Hubby_looking_at_PORN

[babiigyalraya93]

thanks for the link 

Quoting first12jump:

http://www.cafemom.com/group/115179/forums/read/17914055/Nervous_about_Hubby_looking_at_PORN

[first12jump]

No problem :) I think it covers all the things you were wondering about.

[spicy_n_sweet]

I would not be upset and there would be nothing for me to address.   I have no issues with him viewing porn and he has no issue with me viewing/reading porn.

[thecoffeefairy]

It's no biggie IMO. I even watch porn.

[Stephenie2810]

my man was doing the same thing it up set me very bad so is what i did was tell him how would you like it if i just looked at men and played with my self and pretended like i was f**cking another man like he did when he looked at girls on porn when i am right here and got of when you are home i told him in a way it is like cheating cuz in his head he was f**cking other girls so i told him how would he like it if i did it and did not have sex with him and pertended i was haveing sex with a nother man. and for some people it is not a big dill but when you are not geting any cuz thay rather look at that crap well there is somthing wrong and if some guys watch it it gets bad thay get to were thay watch it all the time my man was doing it every day almost all day even at work on the phone then he would tell me he was not waching it and he was that made me fill like i was not good enof for him and he as stoped watching it that i know of but some times i thank he is still waching it cuz every know and agen cuz the history on the phone is erased that up sets me cuz   why eras it if you did not look up something . and what i dont get is why do thay look at that when thay have us wrigh there is it us or them are thay geting tyerd of us or sex with us but how can there hand and nasty looos pussy tern them on i dont get it

[Anonymous]

I had another conversation with my husband after somehow his phone emailed me a copy of his web history, (dont know how) and it showed that the minute I left down 9 am he started looking at porn and didn't stop until almost 4 pm, he was masturbating to slurs in the internet while I was finding out that we need another ultrasound of our baby's kidneys because there may be a problem! I was furious, especially since I got the email while I was sitting in the docs office! I asked him why he said he didn't know he just does it, that he doesn't have any desire to look at it while I'm with him, just when he's alone, I told him that I felt cheated on, he said he doesn't see the big deal, I told him that how would he feel if I loaned our car out to my brothers? He hates loaning our cars to people, I don't see a big deal in it but I don't do it because it really bothers him for a long time. So I told him the way I feel when he looks at porn behind my back is the same way he would feel if I loaned out the car behind his back, I hope I have made it clear to him now!

[Anonymous]

IMO it's no big deal unless it's the totally perverted kind (animals, pissing/shitting on, rape etc.). Men are men and they usually like porn. It's nothing to do with you or how he feels about you. DH watches it often and I sometimes join him.

[MeaganP]

I watch it. I say no big deal

[AimSnapHolz]

I'd be like, "Dude, porn!" And watch it to see if it was awesome. If it was awesome, I'd congratulate him on his taste. If it was boring, I'd make fun of him.

But that's me.