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Do you find your husband's chores sexy?

Posted by on Jan. 30, 2013 at 5:02 PM
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Men Who Do 'Female' Chores Have Less Fun in the Bedroom & That Seems About Right

Posted by Sasha Brown-Worsham on January 30, 2013 

men doing female choresA new study that will appear in the February issue of the American Sociological Review makes the shocking claim that husbands who do more "traditionally female" housework have less sex. Yowza. It seems that perhaps the traditional gender roles do something to the old libido that more egalitarian households aren't getting. Even still, I know in MY marriage, there is nothing in the world that turns me on more than my husband actually doing chores well.

Last week, the man organized our entire play room BY HIMSELF, and I swear to you, I have never found him more attractive. Call me crazy, but wow. That's hot.

There is something about a man who is willing to put aside childish "gender" concerns and put on an apron or try to cook or comfort a child or do any number of "female" tasks that is undeniably sexy ... And yet. In my heart of hearts, I also kind of get it, too.

As someone who considers themselves a feminist and also believes in a marriage based on friendship and loyalty and equal division of labor, I must say it pains me to admit this. But my husband's successes in the kitchen or in the cleaning realm are far less intoxicating to me than his successes in other areas.

Seeing him sweaty after fixing a car or dirty after cleaning the gutters or tired after some kind of manual labor is all really, really hot.

Sure, any time he is busy around the house, it's sexy. And I would hate to say that only women can do traditionally female tasks. But which one makes me want to jump his bones more? If I had to choose? Definitely the male ones ...

That's SO bad. But there is something about an aggressively manly man that remains a turn-on. Guilty as charged.

Now, I just hope my husband never reads this. Obviously, there is a whole other side to this study, which is that men who don't help around the house are going to end up in marriages where the woman is unhappy. And THAT will lead to less sex. So ladies, I see only one solution. Let's all make a national pact to have MORE sex with our husbands when he cooks and cleans and less when he sits on his butt watching football. Sound good?

Do you find your husband's chores sexy?

by on Jan. 30, 2013 at 5:02 PM
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lizzymom80
by on Jan. 30, 2013 at 5:36 PM
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I will come up and "molest" my DH when he is doing the dishes. The fact that I am out of the house all day while he is at home means that the opposite is true, if no "housework" gets done, no nooky time for him.
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aikimomof3
by on Jan. 30, 2013 at 7:27 PM

Today I helped DH clean out the fireplace and chimney. While I was standing behind him, watching him push the fireplace insert back, I thought to myself, "Damn, I am so lucky to have such a sexy and motivated husband." Just watchin him work made me hot for him! So yes, his chores are sexy to me :)

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 on Jan. 30, 2013 at 9:41 PM
i LOVE it when dh does the dishes, or sweeps and mops, or scrubs the oven for me ( the fumes kill me) we both work and so we do chores 50/50, and we are having sex almost everday, most mornings, and the nights i watch him do the dishes, are nights im just a bit more aroused ;)
MrsShipley21
by on Jan. 31, 2013 at 12:10 AM

Hells to the yeah ^_^ Nothing makes mama happier then seeing her man act like a man. He is always rewarded ;)

karlamousse4
by on Jan. 31, 2013 at 4:58 AM
Yeah! Its sexy because when they do those things for us...we know how much they want to please us. It reflects how willing they are to make us feel amazing :D
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narumi74
by on Jan. 31, 2013 at 11:09 AM

My DH is in the army so when he puts on his uniform, I think he is soo freaking hot! :) He used to be handy man, and construction business before so when he fixes things around the house with his tight jeans and shirt, mmm I just wanna do him right there! :)

baby7810
by Member on Jan. 31, 2013 at 11:11 AM

LOL he doesnt do those things unless i ask him to. and if i have to ask him to then no not sexy

ALolies
by on Jan. 31, 2013 at 12:15 PM

Yes... Super sexy.... 

la_bella_vita
by Ruby Member on Jan. 31, 2013 at 1:17 PM

 My husband cleaned the kitchen for me the other day and as soon as the kid's went down for their naps, it was party time in the bedroom. We had a blast ; ) lol

Peera
by on Jan. 31, 2013 at 2:21 PM

I read this too, I find it totally ridiculous. If I EVER walked into the kitchen & found SO doing the dishes, I'd jump his freaking bones right then & there. 

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