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im not planning on anything sexual happening on valentines day. dh hurt me recently it wasnt cheating but close enough i told him were not having sex again till i can at least somewhat trust him. i dont mind im not a big fan of sex but i know its going to upset him when we dont have any that night. oh well its his own fault. just wish i didnt feel bad about it :/

by on Feb. 1, 2013 at 5:47 PM
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rlk121909
by on Feb. 1, 2013 at 10:31 PM

yes we just joined the church in september

Quoting GraceStrickland:

"Bishop"?  So the two of you are members of the Mormon religion?


Quoting rlk121909:

it wasnt another woman. i should clarify

before we even got married (and ive found it a couple times but didnt know the extent of it until recently) hed go on craigslist and search the personal ads and masturbate to it. i was disgusted. its practically cheating in my opinion those were women we could see at the store or they could even live in our apt complex. its like a gateway thing. he looked at porn, then wanted something more real so went to craigslist. the next step would be something even more real and contacting those women. 

the bishop of our church (we talked to him about this) told us there was a couple in the church everyone knew they were very well liked. well one of the spouses was meeting people on craigslist and ended up giving the other spouse aids. it just made it so real to me. im scared to trust him again im scared to try and forget but i feel guilty for not having sex cuz he could easily do it again. he did it cuz his sex drive was higher than mine. that problem isnt going to go away nothings going to make me want sex more and soon enough hell go back to that again :/

Quoting boshs1andonly:

Don't feel bad. After I found out about OW, we didn't have sex for awhile, and he let me take the lead so he didn't push too far too fast, so I get where you're coming from. 





susan115
by on Feb. 1, 2013 at 11:58 PM

 I agree, think about other things and keep yourself busy, until you can figure out your feelings.  Good luck and I hope all works out for you.

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