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im not planning on anything sexual happening on valentines day. dh hurt me recently it wasnt cheating but close enough i told him were not having sex again till i can at least somewhat trust him. i dont mind im not a big fan of sex but i know its going to upset him when we dont have any that night. oh well its his own fault. just wish i didnt feel bad about it :/

by on Feb. 1, 2013 at 5:47 PM
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rlk121909
by on Feb. 1, 2013 at 8:56 PM

it wasnt another woman. i should clarify

before we even got married (and ive found it a couple times but didnt know the extent of it until recently) hed go on craigslist and search the personal ads and masturbate to it. i was disgusted. its practically cheating in my opinion those were women we could see at the store or they could even live in our apt complex. its like a gateway thing. he looked at porn, then wanted something more real so went to craigslist. the next step would be something even more real and contacting those women. 

the bishop of our church (we talked to him about this) told us there was a couple in the church everyone knew they were very well liked. well one of the spouses was meeting people on craigslist and ended up giving the other spouse aids. it just made it so real to me. im scared to trust him again im scared to try and forget but i feel guilty for not having sex cuz he could easily do it again. he did it cuz his sex drive was higher than mine. that problem isnt going to go away nothings going to make me want sex more and soon enough hell go back to that again :/

Quoting boshs1andonly:

Don't feel bad. After I found out about OW, we didn't have sex for awhile, and he let me take the lead so he didn't push too far too fast, so I get where you're coming from. 


boshs1andonly
by on Feb. 1, 2013 at 8:58 PM
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Oh I know, you mentioned it wasn't cheating. I'm just saying, I get it. And I understand why you'd be worried, wish I had better advice for you. ((hugs))

Quoting rlk121909:

it wasnt another woman. i should clarify

before we even got married (and ive found it a couple times but didnt know the extent of it until recently) hed go on craigslist and search the personal ads and masturbate to it. i was disgusted. its practically cheating in my opinion those were women we could see at the store or they could even live in our apt complex. its like a gateway thing. he looked at porn, then wanted something more real so went to craigslist. the next step would be something even more real and contacting those women. 

the bishop of our church (we talked to him about this) told us there was a couple in the church everyone knew they were very well liked. well one of the spouses was meeting people on craigslist and ended up giving the other spouse aids. it just made it so real to me. im scared to trust him again im scared to try and forget but i feel guilty for not having sex cuz he could easily do it again. he did it cuz his sex drive was higher than mine. that problem isnt going to go away nothings going to make me want sex more and soon enough hell go back to that again :/

Quoting boshs1andonly:

Don't feel bad. After I found out about OW, we didn't have sex for awhile, and he let me take the lead so he didn't push too far too fast, so I get where you're coming from. 



LilyFlair
by on Feb. 1, 2013 at 8:59 PM
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if honey doesnt get his act togther we wont be either.

rlk121909
by on Feb. 1, 2013 at 9:01 PM

i hate men sometimes :/

Quoting LilyFlair:

if honey doesnt get his act togther we wont be either.


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joaquinsmommy7
by Member on Feb. 1, 2013 at 9:14 PM
That sucks Mommad my man is like that but he sticks to porn which i feel insecure about but we still have amazing sex even tho he has a higher sex drive than me also... ughh

Quoting rlk121909:

im not planning on anything sexual happening on valentines day. dh hurt me recently it wasnt cheating but close enough i told him were not having sex again till i can at least somewhat trust him. i dont mind im not a big fan of sex but i know its going to upset him when we dont have any that night. oh well its his own fault. just wish i didnt feel bad about it :/

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rlk121909
by on Feb. 1, 2013 at 9:38 PM

while porn does bug me quite a bit i rather him to that than what he did

Quoting joaquinsmommy7:

That sucks Mommad my man is like that but he sticks to porn which i feel insecure about but we still have amazing sex even tho he has a higher sex drive than me also... ughh

Quoting rlk121909:

im not planning on anything sexual happening on valentines day. dh hurt me recently it wasnt cheating but close enough i told him were not having sex again till i can at least somewhat trust him. i dont mind im not a big fan of sex but i know its going to upset him when we dont have any that night. oh well its his own fault. just wish i didnt feel bad about it :/


la_bella_vita
by Bella on Feb. 1, 2013 at 10:01 PM

((Hugs)) I hope you two are able to do work things out.

rlk121909
by on Feb. 1, 2013 at 10:18 PM


Quoting la_bella_vita:

((Hugs)) I hope you two are able to do work things out.

thank you. i hope so too

GraceStrickland
by on Feb. 1, 2013 at 10:25 PM

He can be upset or he can learn that women are emotionally aroused and do the work to get you there.  I hope you two work it out soon so you aren't sad!!!

  I have a wonderful marriage, going on 11 years, but a few years back DH had an "emotional affair" with an ex via facebook.  It was hurtful and took some getting over, but now I care about as much as the time some random person stepped on my foot when I was 16.  But never hve sex with someone you care about out of guilt, it will taint the act in the future.

GraceStrickland
by on Feb. 1, 2013 at 10:28 PM

"Bishop"?  So the two of you are members of the Mormon religion?


Quoting rlk121909:

it wasnt another woman. i should clarify

before we even got married (and ive found it a couple times but didnt know the extent of it until recently) hed go on craigslist and search the personal ads and masturbate to it. i was disgusted. its practically cheating in my opinion those were women we could see at the store or they could even live in our apt complex. its like a gateway thing. he looked at porn, then wanted something more real so went to craigslist. the next step would be something even more real and contacting those women. 

the bishop of our church (we talked to him about this) told us there was a couple in the church everyone knew they were very well liked. well one of the spouses was meeting people on craigslist and ended up giving the other spouse aids. it just made it so real to me. im scared to trust him again im scared to try and forget but i feel guilty for not having sex cuz he could easily do it again. he did it cuz his sex drive was higher than mine. that problem isnt going to go away nothings going to make me want sex more and soon enough hell go back to that again :/

Quoting boshs1andonly:

Don't feel bad. After I found out about OW, we didn't have sex for awhile, and he let me take the lead so he didn't push too far too fast, so I get where you're coming from. 




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