I recently (6 weeks ago) found out my husband (of 13 years) had oral sex with a man. I was looking at our Ipad and discovered an email account my husband set up. Then i found on an online gay website site that he set up a profile for. I was able to access his email account and read numerous emails between him and another man discussing when and where to meet. Most of the conversations about where to meet where from my hisband. He took nude photo's of himself and emailed them to this man. A date was set, he took off work, met this man at a 3rd man's home. According to my husband he gave this man a blow job, the 2nd man gave him a blow job while the 3rd man watched and nothing furthur happended. After the "hoopk up" date my husband continued to email this man and discussed meeting up again and with the 3rd man joining in and possibly a 4th man. While reading the emails my husband sent to this man, prior to meeting him, my husband stated that this would be the 4th male he would be having sex with.
When I confronted my husband (by phone) he denied the affair, then once i told him i was reading the emails and started to state word for word what he typed, he then sent me a text saying "yes i did it". I asked why, he stated he was curious about what it would be like to give a man a blow job and get one from a man. Said he has been curious since his early 20's, he is 38, about this and has never acted upon this curiosity. I asked about the 3 other men (he detailed encounters with them) he stated he previusly had sex with and he stated that he made it up so he wouldn't sound inexperienced. He stated it was something he wanted to do for a long time so he did it without thinking about how this would effect our marriage if caught. He said he had no intentions of meeting with this man again or any other man. I don't believe this since he continued to email him after the "hook up" date. He said he doesn't know why he kept emailing him, he just did.
He is stating he loves me, wants to stay in this marriage, doesn't want a divorce, knows he messed up but wants another chance. I don't know if what he is stating is true, if he would have continued to cheat. I have never had any reason to believe my husband would have ever done anything like this with a woman or man, we don't fight or argue, have/had regular date nights and no issues in our marriage. I don't understand how he could do this especially with a man and don't know what to do, stay or divorce?
Any advice/insight would be great!
you need counceling. for you both. most ppl will say divorce but that is only for ppl too lazy to fix their marraige or have tried everything with no luck. u love him and he loves you thats worth fighting for
I'm sorry : ( I would leave but that's just me.
What would you did if he had cheated with a woman? Man or woman, doesn't matter he cheated. So handle the situation however you would when it comes to cheating.
Stay or leave. It's not going to be an easy decision either way. Neither choice will be easy to follow through with. Both choices will have repercussions and issues to deal with. Both choices will take a lot of work, dedication and determination. Be sure your honest with yourself when you make your choice, be honest as to why you are making that choice. Whatever choice you make, give it your best effort.
Cheating is cheating, he lied to you, had sex with someone else....could have brought diseases home to you, and betrayed his vows.
Why does it make a difference that its a man?
I'm sorry. .....:'(
Cheating is cheating. With a man or woman makes no difference.
This wasn't "a mistake" this was an planned and carefully excuted plan.
Quoting Anonymous:
I don't think that I could stay with a man that cheated, whoever it was with. And this was very planned. It's not something that "just happened". This was calculated. I'd be afraid he'd do it again
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- goldstar1975
on Feb. 4, 2013 at 9:00 PM