at a loss

[Anonymous]

Ok so my sex drive has been out of whack since having our daughter 3 1/2 months ago. I am really in the mood and everything but when we dtd I can get off! And it is driving me crazy..... last night for example everything was great until I was ready to o and nothing my poor dh tried so hard and then he says your lactating which shut me down even more and so it was over. I am starting to believe that something is wrong either my self image is keeping me from it or thoughts of the past and the issues we had come into play and that's causing me from it I don't know except if I don't get off soon I am going to explode.!

[kayteebug93]

could you keep your bra on?

[tifbrown]

Focus on the sensation. To hard, but try to keep the negativity out of your head. Think about how it feels, how he feels, just being together. If other thoughts start to creep in, push them it with the thoughts of sensation and how good it feels. It sounds like you are too in your head. You have a man who clearly finds you attractive and is working his ass off to get you off. Relax and enjoy. If you think something is wrong, talk to your doc at your 6 week checkup. Other than that, just give it time to pass. Good luck, happy humping!

[SareyF]

Wear a sexy bra, baby doll, or bustier with nursing pads and get out of your head! When I'm having a hard time, I focus on something specific that really pushes me over. I close my.eyes and go inside and think about certain sensations or images. Sometimes you just have slumps though, so take it easy on yourself. The more you stress, the worse it will be.

[Anonymous]

Wear a sexy bra?

[frogbender]

Pump before. Have a glass of wine. Relax. Have some fun with DH. Not necessarily sexual, but more the kind that gets both of you laughing and enjoying each other. Then move into the serious stuff.