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Posted by on Mar. 8, 2013 at 10:00 AM
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 My husband does not want to have sex at all anymore, he told me he does not have the desire! We have been in some troubled waters for a while about this issue. I have wondered if he is gay several times.He has crohns disease and blames alot of it on that. I need sex at least twice a week and for the past 6 years it has been twice a month when we are having a good month, latley its only when he needs it. I am confused because he gets off to porn when I am not here, (I caught him doing it) TIRED and CONFUSED

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Jennygurl09
by on Mar. 8, 2013 at 10:07 AM

Then why are you still married?

blueeyegirl1987
by on Mar. 8, 2013 at 10:19 AM
Quoting Jennygurl09:

Then why are you still married?


sex is always not about being married yes its big part in a marriage but not all the way... but something is going on with him for sure OP... have u talked to him about it? ask what he likes about the porn and maybe show him that u can do some of that stuff. Maybe hes cheating idk... but I would be hurt also talk to him and see if there's anything you can do to help...
Jennygurl09
by on Mar. 8, 2013 at 10:23 AM



Quoting blueeyegirl1987:

Quoting Jennygurl09:

Then why are you still married?


sex is always not about being married yes its big part in a marriage but not all the way... but something is going on with him for sure OP... have u talked to him about it? ask what he likes about the porn and maybe show him that u can do some of that stuff. Maybe hes cheating idk... but I would be hurt also talk to him and see if there's anything you can do to help...

No it's not. But if you are married to someone and not having sex then it's essentially a friendship. There's no point to continue if your mate is making no effort.


lissda
by on Mar. 8, 2013 at 10:34 AM

We are essentially roomates, I have told him want a divorce but he tells me he does not want this. I dont want to hurt the kids either, I am starting to realize that he is as selfish as they come. We did not even have sex on our wedding night because something was akward. idk if he is cheating, maybe with a guy. everyday I find myself slipping away from him more and more.

blueeyegirl1987
by on Mar. 8, 2013 at 10:35 AM
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Quoting Jennygurl09:


as a married couple you are together thou the bad and the good. He might be going thou the bad stuff right now. He should go to a dr and find help... I know woman lose their sex drives just like man can. That gives them no right to leave them...
blueeyegirl1987
by on Mar. 8, 2013 at 10:37 AM
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Quoting lissda:

We are essentially roomates, I have told him want a divorce but he tells me he does not want this. I dont want to hurt the kids either, I am starting to realize that he is as selfish as they come. We did not even have sex on our wedding night because something was akward. idk if he is cheating, maybe with a guy. everyday I find myself slipping away from him more and more.


I would talk to a dr or something at lease say you try frist for the kids... I can understand how its hard on you. I kinda went thou the same iusse and it happen to be my ex was sleeping around... but try all u can do and go from there good luck.
Dee0886
by on Mar. 8, 2013 at 10:38 AM
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I think sex is, not the most important thing, but an important part of a marriage. You need to tell him you have human needs that need to be fulfilled and if he's not going to do it, how are you suppose to be happy. I'm sorry but if there was no desire, there would be no porn. That part makes no sense to me. Something isn't quite right.

Wife to an amazing, loving, and respectful man. Mommy to a handsome man who gets his kicks from making others smile, and a beautiful little girl with an old soul and nurturing spirit. Expecting in May.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 on Mar. 8, 2013 at 10:38 AM
Any other signs that make you think Hes gay? That's very odd he didn't want to on your wedding day.maybe he is not attracted to you?maybe he rather masturbate because Hes too lazy for sex.

Quoting lissda:

We are essentially roomates, I have told him want a divorce but he tells me he does not want this. I dont want to hurt the kids either, I am starting to realize that he is as selfish as they come. We did not even have sex on our wedding night because something was akward. idk if he is cheating, maybe with a guy. everyday I find myself slipping away from him more and more.

Jennygurl09
by on Mar. 8, 2013 at 10:39 AM




Quoting blueeyegirl1987:

Quoting Jennygurl09:


as a married couple you are together thou the bad and the good. He might be going thou the bad stuff right now. He should go to a dr and find help... I know woman lose their sex drives just like man can. That gives them no right to leave them...

I think after 6 years it's beyond just going through bad stuff. And if your partner isn't making any effort to try to fix it, then it shows their lack of care. At that point it's time you consider making yourself happy.



LucyHarper
by on Mar. 8, 2013 at 10:41 AM
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Some guys just get low testosterone and just aren't in the mood, for reasons like having crohns disease which can leave them in pain, fatigued, and just wanting to have sex. I wouldn't jump to "he must be gay." Ask him to talk to his doctor about it. 

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