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Anonymous
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Hi all, first time we've ever had a problem sexually together. We have been together 16 yrs, married for 13 yrs. so this is quite odd, and need help thinking what could be wrong. My husband is 38 I'm 35. Ok, so. Like I've said we have NEVER had any issues w sex. We have a pretty healthy sex life, not too much cause we've slowed down after having kids, but at least once a week, sometimes more. My husband never usually lasts too long during the act. We usually have about 15-20 minutes of foreplay and about 15-20 minutes of intercourse on a usual basis before he cums (when hes done, thats when it ends, been like that forever, i dont have a Problem w it). Sometimes longer, sometimes less. Anyway, onto this weeks issue. He can't cum!!! We have had sex 3 different days this week, and one day I just gave him a bj. The bj was on the first day, and he came w no problem. Day after that, he initiated sex. I agreed. We did everything we normally do, foreplay then intercourse. For some reason he couldn't cum. We tried for an hour. So we stopped, and went to bed. He woke up in the middle of the night horny so he woke me up. We went at it again for another hour, he still couldn't cum. So we gave up. It was weird cause it never happened, but we brushed it off to a one time thing. Last night we went at it again for about 2 hours, same thing, he couldn't cum. Then today he stayed home from work because we were kinda snowed in. We literally went at it all day while kids were in school. We would stop and continue a few minutes later. He could not cum!!!! He came really close, and went through the motions and feelings like he was about to, and.....nothing. Just for a little more info, its obvious he was totally into it, he was hard as a rock the entire time, each time. AND he initiated sex each time. First time it was a little weird, second time stranger, today getting a little worried.
Any ideas?
Posted by Anonymous on Mar. 8, 2013 at 6:57 PM
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Jennygurl09
by on Mar. 8, 2013 at 7:00 PM

Is he on any new meds? Stressed?

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Mar. 8, 2013 at 7:04 PM
No, no meds at all. And no more stress than usual.

Quoting Jennygurl09:

Is he on any new meds? Stressed?

Jennygurl09
by on Mar. 8, 2013 at 7:05 PM



Quoting Anonymous:

No, no meds at all. And no more stress than usual.

Quoting Jennygurl09:

Is he on any new meds? Stressed?


Any other new health issues? Does he smoke?

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Mar. 8, 2013 at 7:07 PM
He does smoke. But maybe only 1-2 cigarettes a day

Quoting Jennygurl09:




Quoting Anonymous:

No, no meds at all. And no more stress than usual.



Quoting Jennygurl09:

Is he on any new meds? Stressed?



Any other new health issues? Does he smoke?

Jennygurl09
by on Mar. 8, 2013 at 7:08 PM



Quoting Anonymous:

He does smoke. But maybe only 1-2 cigarettes a day

Quoting Jennygurl09:




Quoting Anonymous:

No, no meds at all. And no more stress than usual.



Quoting Jennygurl09:

Is he on any new meds? Stressed?



Any other new health issues? Does he smoke?


Does he have any weight issues? What about prior meds?

KarmaLives13
by on Mar. 8, 2013 at 7:09 PM

Maybe he's just really stressed.

bbecker001
by on Mar. 8, 2013 at 8:10 PM
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Switch it up and try new positions maybe? I've never had that happen. Maybe he is so worried about not being able to cum now that he can't.

That scenario obviously wouldn't explain the first days issue but just a thought.

Whatever it is I hope it passes soon.
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Mar. 8, 2013 at 8:40 PM
He is overweight but actually has lost a few pounds recently.

Quoting Jennygurl09:




Quoting Anonymous:

He does smoke. But maybe only 1-2 cigarettes a day



Quoting Jennygurl09:





Quoting Anonymous:

No, no meds at all. And no more stress than usual.





Quoting Jennygurl09:

Is he on any new meds? Stressed?




Any other new health issues? Does he smoke?



Does he have any weight issues? What about prior meds?

Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Mar. 8, 2013 at 9:01 PM

You were snowed in but your kids had school?

la_bella_vita
by Bella on Mar. 8, 2013 at 9:45 PM

 Sounds like he could be stressed.

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