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Always on his time never mine!!

Posted by on Mar. 9, 2013 at 3:19 PM
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It's pissing the F off! We always have sex when he wants to, always!!! But when I get horny and he's not in the mood we never do it! Last night I wanted to and he's like babe am tired sorry, but he was hard!!! Wtf!! Ill admit I got mad cuz of rejection, then we fought, this morning he was sleeping in another bedroom, I woke him up & told him to come lay by me, him half asleep walked to our room and lady by me and expecting to go bk to sleep, he started touching my butt and rubbing on me! I was still mad that I said no ur mean and rejected me last night, he's like I don't care, and pull down my shorts! I tried to honestly say no but then of course I got turned on and we did it, I'm starting to feel like a slave, we only do it when he wants it and never when I do, never!! It's great we do it almost everyday but when I'm not n the mood he throws a huge huge huge fit! And he calls me immature for getting mad about sex, when I reject him he goes and looks and porn or something, then I feel terrible! It's so easy for him, cuz when I get rejected it sucks because I can't get turn on by porn or looking at other men, it just doesn't work for me, I only get turned on my a mans touch or seeing him in person, it totally sucks, my sexlife isn't MINE it's his..... :( 

Any questions like why do him if he don't do u, answer is I do it because I know I'll want it and I know I won't get it so miles well do it.

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Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 on Mar. 9, 2013 at 7:06 PM
My husband is the same way, it seems like whenever I want to or try to initiate it he doesn't want to, even though he has complained that I never initiate... So the other night I wanted to and of course he didn't so I let him go to sleep then got my toy out played a little, touched him got him hard and jumped on, he was still half asleep so we ended doing it the way I wanted to and when I wanted to...
Jennygurl09
by on Mar. 9, 2013 at 7:08 PM

Have you talked to him about it?

Jacylove
by on Mar. 9, 2013 at 9:22 PM

I know!!! Ahh makes me so mad!! He's like I look at porn and other women cuz using give me attention!!! He so ugh difficult! I don't give him attention cuz I knw I'm going to get rejected..

 Anonymous:

My husband is the same way, it seems like whenever I want to or try to initiate it he doesn't want to, even though he has complained that I never initiate... So the other night I wanted to and of course he didn't so I let him go to sleep then got my toy out played a little, touched him got him hard and jumped on, he was still half asleep so we ended doing it the way I wanted to and when I wanted to...


Jacylove
by on Mar. 9, 2013 at 9:24 PM

No not really I feel like its going to turn into a fight, or he jokes now don't go cheating on me, after he rejects me

Quoting Jennygurl09:

Have you talked to him about it?


Jennygurl09
by on Mar. 9, 2013 at 9:25 PM



Quoting Jacylove:

No not really I feel like its going to turn into a fight, or he jokes now don't go cheating on me, after he rejects me

Quoting Jennygurl09:

Have you talked to him about it?


Stop fucking him then ;)


AverysMomma10
by on Mar. 9, 2013 at 11:08 PM

my bf is always too caught up in video games to pay attention to me. plays for more than 8 hours a day. we're young and we hardly have sex. which drives me nuts cuz every other young couple i know of has sex ALL THE TIME. im 18, he's 22. we have sex like once or twice a month. ive just learned to take care of myself.  iv'e talked to him about how much it bugs me that we never do it, and it usually ends up turning into an argument where he says "thats what this is about?? sex?!" YES! girls have needs too!!

Jennygurl09
by on Mar. 9, 2013 at 11:14 PM



Quoting AverysMomma10:

my bf is always too caught up in video games to pay attention to me. plays for more than 8 hours a day. we're young and we hardly have sex. which drives me nuts cuz every other young couple i know of has sex ALL THE TIME. im 18, he's 22. we have sex like once or twice a month. ive just learned to take care of myself.  iv'e talked to him about how much it bugs me that we never do it, and it usually ends up turning into an argument where he says "thats what this is about?? sex?!" YES! girls have needs too!!


That's really not healthy at all. If he isn't willing to change or get help, then you should look towards making youtself happy.

AverysMomma10
by on Mar. 9, 2013 at 11:23 PM



Quoting Jennygurl09:



Quoting AverysMomma10:

my bf is always too caught up in video games to pay attention to me. plays for more than 8 hours a day. we're young and we hardly have sex. which drives me nuts cuz every other young couple i know of has sex ALL THE TIME. im 18, he's 22. we have sex like once or twice a month. ive just learned to take care of myself.  iv'e talked to him about how much it bugs me that we never do it, and it usually ends up turning into an argument where he says "thats what this is about?? sex?!" YES! girls have needs too!!


That's really not healthy at all. If he isn't willing to change or get help, then you should look towards making youtself happy.

he claims that he's just never in the mood since he quit drinking. he used to drink a lot. like, everyday, a lot. lol.


Jennygurl09
by on Mar. 9, 2013 at 11:24 PM



Quoting AverysMomma10:



Quoting Jennygurl09:



Quoting AverysMomma10:

my bf is always too caught up in video games to pay attention to me. plays for more than 8 hours a day. we're young and we hardly have sex. which drives me nuts cuz every other young couple i know of has sex ALL THE TIME. im 18, he's 22. we have sex like once or twice a month. ive just learned to take care of myself.  iv'e talked to him about how much it bugs me that we never do it, and it usually ends up turning into an argument where he says "thats what this is about?? sex?!" YES! girls have needs too!!


That's really not healthy at all. If he isn't willing to change or get help, then you should look towards making youtself happy.

he claims that he's just never in the mood since he quit drinking. he used to drink a lot. like, everyday, a lot. lol.


Yeah then it's time you think about your options. He has addiction issues with is obvious. He is trading one for another is all.


sprinkles9112
by on Mar. 9, 2013 at 11:33 PM

I would try to push through talking to him. Even if he makes jokes- tell him to stop. Tell him he needs to listen because what you're saying is important and if he can't take the time to listen, then you can't take the time to meet his needs. 

Explain to him how his rejection makes you feel. He'll probably pull a "but babe, what do you want me to do? If I'm tired, I'm tired!" but don't take it. There is no way he is tired EVERY time you wanna get dirty. 

I love that my husband is understanding. We do our very best to communicate what we're feeling. I think that's what keeps the peace when one of us is ready for a little mattress squeak and the other really doesn't want to. 

Sounds like maybe your fella likes to be in control? Does he normally prefer you to be the submissive role during sex? You could always try letting him know you'd like a little "down there attention" by playing all sweet and innocent. Dress in something not obviously sexy, but sexy- like a tshirt, no bra and a thong perhaps? Play the part of school girl who needs to be punished LOL 

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