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Help . . . DH can't keep it up . . .!!

Anonymous
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Ok so i had my DS seven months ago. Haven't had much intercourse since just havn't been in the mood. But have had LOTS of sexual contact with DH. (oral handjobs cudling making out) in the last month ive finally been in the mood and DH has been interested as well but when we start after a few minutes he gets soft. He is 26 and never had this issue before. I am terrified that its me or my vagina is different or he isnt as attracted to me anymore. he says no this isnt the case at all he doesnt know what is happening. it has happened ever time we have tried to have intercourse.( he still does fine with other stuff  .oral etc). both when he initiates or when i do.

What should i (we) do?

Posted by Anonymous on Mar. 9, 2013 at 11:50 PM
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megs424420
by on Mar. 10, 2013 at 12:03 AM
How long has this been going on?
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Mar. 10, 2013 at 12:09 AM


about a month

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How long has this been going on?



LveMy2K1dS
by on Mar. 10, 2013 at 12:11 AM

we had this problem too, found out he was watching too much porn and had desensitized him. He stopped (or so he says lol) and its been much better for a while now, except this last week he was having the problem again so thats why I wonder if he has gone back to it. Its a real problem and its a growing problem these days with porn so readily available. google: porn related erectile dysfunction!

megs424420
by on Mar. 10, 2013 at 12:13 AM
Has he started any new medications? Drugs/alcohol? Stress? All can cause problems with sexual function. He should probably see his dr just to be checked out.
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NewMamaBoo
by on Mar. 10, 2013 at 12:15 AM

Viagra?

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Mar. 10, 2013 at 12:19 AM
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no new meds and neither of us drink. he did start a new job so maybe stress . . ? what could we do to eleviate this though if its stress? and as for viagra i don't think thats really an immediate go-to for a 26 yrold is it?

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Mar. 10, 2013 at 12:20 AM


omg ive heard of this but how did you bring it up? i feel like if i ask him he'll be embarrased and deny it.

Quoting LveMy2K1dS:

we had this problem too, found out he was watching too much porn and had desensitized him. He stopped (or so he says lol) and its been much better for a while now, except this last week he was having the problem again so thats why I wonder if he has gone back to it. Its a real problem and its a growing problem these days with porn so readily available. google: porn related erectile dysfunction!



LveMy2K1dS
by on Mar. 10, 2013 at 12:31 AM
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I was the same way. I sent him an email with a bunch of links to articles that talked about it, and told him to read it while he was on breaks at work. I was scared shitless because I thought he would deny it and get pissed at me for bringing it up and embarassing him, but he surprised me by saying that he would give it a try because he wanted nothing more than to make me happy! I was literally shocked lol. So he did and it was going so well for a while until last week like I said. I asked him if he went back to porn, he says no but I'm not sure I believe him 100%. He would have to give it up totally, no going back, to see results.

Quoting Anonymous:


omg ive heard of this but how did you bring it up? i feel like if i ask him he'll be embarrased and deny it.

Quoting LveMy2K1dS:

we had this problem too, found out he was watching too much porn and had desensitized him. He stopped (or so he says lol) and its been much better for a while now, except this last week he was having the problem again so thats why I wonder if he has gone back to it. Its a real problem and its a growing problem these days with porn so readily available. google: porn related erectile dysfunction!




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ShannyLouisiany
by Member on Mar. 10, 2013 at 12:35 AM
so y'all have gone 7 months without actual intercourse?
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by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Mar. 10, 2013 at 12:40 AM


first six months we had intercouse maybe 4 times total and we hadnt in about a month until we started trying again a month ago; this has happened consistantly since then. but like i said we did lots of other stuff. do you think he's out of practice? I dont know what to think, i thought he'd be thrilled, or maybe he'd finish faster or something at the worst . . 

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so y'all have gone 7 months without actual intercourse?



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