insecure abouy myself after baby..

[Anonymous]

Im 6 months posy pardom.. And i gainef 50 lbs while being pregnant. I hate my body and am so insecure with myself. My poor boyfriend still thinks im beautiful but i dont believe him so hes starting to het affected by my insecurities. I'm jealous of every pretty girl we see, thinking hes thinking about her.. Blablabla. I love him so much and i know he loves me for me but i'm so depressed with the way i look now. I used to be beautiful, in shape, tone, tan, and now im huge, pale, and miserable. im working out because were going to Florida in July and wanna look good but i cant stop giving myself a hard time abouy the way i look.

Sorry, vent over.

[princesscayte]

Girl, i feel your pain. I had twins a year ago, and i weigh less than before i got pregnant but i have so much extra skin that i look fat. I hate it. I used to be a size ten and tone legs and everything. It sucks but you've got to think of the amazing thing your body created! You worked incredibly hard to get that extra you! I know it's difficult, but your body truly is amazing no matter what you think it looks like.

[MommyDearest555]

I weighed 110 when I got pregnant with my first DS. When I checked into the hospital to have it...I weighed 150 and definitely had a double chin. I had always been TINY up until 21 years old and pregnant. I left the hospital weighing 145ish and kept that weight for two years. I felt horrible about myself at times & wanted to tone up, but I NEVER want to weigh 110 again. I like myself with a little bit of weight just hated that belly pooch in the front from stomach stretching. Don't work out bc you are going on vacation, work out bc you want to feel better about yourself in general. Your vacation atleast will help to keep you motivated, but YOU HAVE TO WANT TO LOSE IT AND STICK WITH THAT WANT. Don't punish your BF bc of your feelings, just work towards being toned. I weigh 156 now 30wks pregnant with second DS. I can't wait to have him bc my goal is to reach size 5 without a muffin top. Wear cloths that FIT you and you will not feel as bad about yourself. I had a hard time letting go and buying the proper size I needed therefore all my pants were way too tight and that is an even worse feeling. Just buy the size you need until you tone and dress size approriate! That will truly help. I felt much better once I gave into the size I needed.

[brookealexis]

i gained a lot when i was pregnant too, i hated my body so much after giving birth because i was tone tan and thin too. i had i rockin body. and to be this out of shape i hated being naked and i didnt believe my husband either. but i started some diet pills that are all natural and some exersise when i can, and well with my little boy i am always exersising haha. but i lost a lot of wait and my son is only 8 months old. i still have some skin that hangs down that i dont like at all but when i step on the scale and see that i have lost wait i feel much better, you will get there, trust me. i never thought i would but i did. i even got myself some cute sexy nightys for my husband :) so hang in there :)

[Anonymous]

Are you breast feeding? That took so much weight off for me. And instead of obsessing about your BF maybe focus on the beauty you guys created together and that you are super woman for what we go through with pregnancy and child birth. It's so strenuous and crazy on the body but eventually all falls back into place. But for now you have a 6 month old .. That's not a long time after giving birth! Give it at least a year.

[PartyGalAnne]

You gave him a child. He has you on a pedestal. Get over yourself. You have a few more months of mood swings like this before you start to feel normal again.

[Anonymous - Original Poster]

I hope so because i hate the way im acting/feeling right now

Quoting PartyGalAnne:

You gave him a child. He has you on a pedestal. Get over yourself. You have a few more months of mood swings like this before you start to feel normal again.

[Mrs.Nevins]

Girl I hear you. I gained 52 lbs and had my son 10 months ago. I still can't get those last 20 off...just got to keep at it!

[Diamondblue1]

I just had a baby 4 months ago and i was already big before i got pregnant then gained weight during and after due to PPD. Now i have all this weight to lose. I hate my size to and shape but hubby try to make me feel better.

[lilyrose2011]

I totally understand with my first I gained 50 pounds I lost most of if afterwards but not all of it, I started working out around 6 months pp and found out I was pregnant again around 7 months pp :/ so I gained another 40 pounds. I am now 7 weeks pp and so unhappy about my body. I tried working out for the first time yesterday and could barely do a sit up. :( after two babies so close together my stomach muscles aren't strong enough to do shit anymore. But I'm goin to keep doin small excersies until I get strong enough to do full workouts and get my body back

[Anonymous]

It's totally normal to feel like that. Force yourself to commit to a one hour workout or walk EVERY NIGHT, no matter what, for two weeks. By "no matter what" I mean, I don't care if Hurricane Katrina hits, get your ass out there and walk. And try to eat healthy at least two meals a day. Breakfast and lunch are easy, easy meals to make healthy. Anyway, just make yourself do this for two weeks, and I can almost guarantee you you will see improvement.