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I orgasm in 30 seconds or less... huge problem.

Anonymous
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Really... I do. I orgasm in less than 30 seconds, every time me and my SO have sex. It has really become a huge problem. It would be fine if I had multiple orgasms, but after one I loose all sex drive, get extremely dry and can't put anything down there because its so sensitive and painful. So, we have to stop intercourse. I usually end up giving my SO a BJ, but its hard when I orgasm just a few minutes into foreplay because he isn't really super hard and I just lose all interest. To give you an idea of how crazy this is, I can get myself to orgasm in about 10 seconds or less, with no preparation (porn, fantasizing etc). I orgasm in about 30-40 seconds if we are "dry humping" or he touches in between my legs at all, and I even orgasm if he just sucks on my nipples within a minute or two without even touching anything else. And when I orgasm, thats IT. I can't have intercourse and I loose all sex drive. Usually, it just gets really dry and painful and I'm just turned off. We've tried lube, but its still extremely sensitive to the touch and we have to be really gentle. If we just go straight to penetration, it takes a bit longer but I still orgasm within 5 minutes. And, its hard for my SO to go straight from nothing to penetration without foreplay, but I can't take much foreplay at all without having an orgasm. And, its not like I am just SO incredibly turned on that I can't contain myself, I'm not a very sexual person or anything and I usually don't even like sex because the orgasms are less than spectacular really. But, I still enjoy that intimate time with my SO but its hard when I can't even really do anything without having an orgasm. Does anyone else have this problem? I talked to my doctor about it and he said I was lucky because most women have a hard time reaching orgasm!!! I understand that, but this is a little extreme!! Any advice or similar experiences would be helpful... After I had an orgasm a few nights ago with 60 seconds of nipple stimulation alone, I'm at the end of my rope....
Posted by Anonymous on Apr. 3, 2013 at 10:37 PM
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Tatiana7
by on Apr. 3, 2013 at 10:42 PM
Too bad you don't have more than one! I orgasm often and easily. But I can see why once you are are done...that's it. I wish I had some great advice. :(
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by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Apr. 3, 2013 at 10:45 PM

Quoting Tatiana7:

Too bad you don't have more than one! I orgasm often and easily. But I can see why once you are are done...that's it. I wish I had some great advice. :(

I've tried to orgasm more than once but I can't, not even with my "tried and true" methods by myself. Its like 110% of my sex drive just drains out of me.
Nickie76
by on Apr. 3, 2013 at 10:46 PM

This is sooo not a bash... Maybe have a drink and see if that lessons the sensativity?

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Apr. 3, 2013 at 10:47 PM



Quoting Nickie76:

This is sooo not a bash... Maybe have a drink and see if that lessons the sensativity?


I don't drink alchohol :( 


Tatiana7
by on Apr. 3, 2013 at 10:50 PM
I bet you sleep so well after, though! I wonder if you were to use some sex numbing lube? Like, maybe it would slow your orgasm down. Apparently, stuff called "Anal Ease" is a numbing agent to help for those who like anal sex. I don't like anal so I've never used the lube. I know back in the day, my Husband used condoms that made him less sensitive so he could have sex longer when/if he wanted to. The condom had the lube inside, not outside. I don't know if Anal Ease can be used for vaginal sex? Hmmm.
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Apr. 3, 2013 at 10:51 PM

bump, I do too but I have multiples so it's a non issue

WonderWomanSV
by on Apr. 3, 2013 at 11:06 PM
I was going to say have a drink also. It always helps me last longer.
Maybe just you do foreplay on him. Start with a bj. Even if he's not hard, my dh likes that. Can you tell him to stop before you orgasm? Just dont let him finish you. If you do that multiple times it should help you stretch out the duration and eventually you'll be able to hold off longer.
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bad_mama2011
by on Apr. 3, 2013 at 11:07 PM
There's a name for that condition, but I can't recall what it is, have you tried getting yourself to almost climax and cooling off before the big bang? That's how they say guys should practice lasting longer. Talk to your doctor, I hope there's a treatment that can help you, good luck.
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by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Apr. 3, 2013 at 11:17 PM
I've never heard its a condition but I will definitely ask my doctor!!

And I've tried that but the littlest thing makes me orgasm so even if I do draw it out, I accidentally make myself orgasm after about 2 minutes or so because it just happens so easy.


Quoting bad_mama2011:

There's a name for that condition, but I can't recall what it is, have you tried getting yourself to almost climax and cooling off before the big bang? That's how they say guys should practice lasting longer. Talk to your doctor, I hope there's a treatment that can help you, good luck.

bad_mama2011
by on Apr. 3, 2013 at 11:21 PM
I saw something on the news about it, some women orgasm without even being touched, I hope things get better for you.


Quoting Anonymous:

I've never heard its a condition but I will definitely ask my doctor!!



And I've tried that but the littlest thing makes me orgasm so even if I do draw it out, I accidentally make myself orgasm after about 2 minutes or so because it just happens so easy.




Quoting bad_mama2011:

There's a name for that condition, but I can't recall what it is, have you tried getting yourself to almost climax and cooling off before the big bang? That's how they say guys should practice lasting longer. Talk to your doctor, I hope there's a treatment that can help you, good luck.


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