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Would you consider this pedophilia?

Anonymous
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Let me start by saying I have never told anyone about this.

I get turned on by the idea of me being a teen and having sex with an older man. Pretending that I am 14-16 and get taught about sex and seduced by a man in his late 30's or 40's.

Let me also say this, the idea of a grown man having sex with a child is disgusting to me. The only time I find it erotic is when I pretend I am the teen.

Would this be considered a form of pedophilia? I feel so ashamed that I like this. I haven't ever told DH about this.

I don't think I could ever act out my fantasy with someone because the idea of a man getting excited about having sex with a 15yr old is disgusting to me. I only think about it when I'm masturbating.

Posted by Anonymous on Apr. 9, 2013 at 10:04 PM
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bad_mama2011
by on Apr. 9, 2013 at 10:07 PM

That's a tricky question, but I suppose if he was doing it to make you happy it would be all right. It's only a fantasy and I've heard of a lot worse than that, do you want him to say things to you or do you want to say things to him about being a teen during the fantasy?

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Apr. 9, 2013 at 10:11 PM
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NO, not at all. I don't want to act this out. I think if I found out that DH got off on young teen girls, I would be sick.  The idea of it actually happening to someone else is gross to me. The idea of me being with a teen is gross.

I just get turned on by thinking that I am the teen.

Quoting bad_mama2011:

That's a tricky question, but I suppose if he was doing it to make you happy it would be all right. It's only a fantasy and I've heard of a lot worse than that, do you want him to say things to you or do you want to say things to him about being a teen during the fantasy?



bad_mama2011
by on Apr. 9, 2013 at 10:16 PM
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Then don't feel ashamed, I really don't think it's that big of a deal, it's like you're afraid your DH would turn into a pedophile if you told him or if he wanted to do it. Maybe it's just the idea of being innnocent, having your first time all over again, and there's nothing wrong with that.


Quoting Anonymous:


NO, not at all. I don't want to act this out. I think if I found out that DH got off on young teen girls, I would be sick.  The idea of it actually happening to someone else is gross to me. The idea of me being with a teen is gross.

I just get turned on by thinking that I am the teen.

Quoting bad_mama2011:

That's a tricky question, but I suppose if he was doing it to make you happy it would be all right. It's only a fantasy and I've heard of a lot worse than that, do you want him to say things to you or do you want to say things to him about being a teen during the fantasy?





suzyma14
by on Apr. 10, 2013 at 7:25 AM
Obviously its sounds like your bothered so why think about it. If any man says " hey babe dress up and act a 14 yr old".....then there is something disturbing going on. Stay grown up.
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Rosies50
by New Member on Apr. 10, 2013 at 7:52 AM
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Um, The Older Person Would Be Considered The PEdiophile, Not The Younger.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Apr. 10, 2013 at 7:59 AM

No

jessjennings23
by on Apr. 10, 2013 at 8:12 AM

I dont think there is anything wrong with this. I have some of the same fantasies, but I talk to my husband about them and we roll play. If I dont tell him what I like he kida just goes through my phone to find out what porn I watch and shit. There is absolutely nothing wrong with this. Honestly, you could like worse things.

fuzzy_britchez
by on Apr. 10, 2013 at 8:17 AM
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Nothing wrong with it. I like  to read erotic stories of father's sleeping with their daughters. But the real thought of it is disgusting! I completely understand where you are coming from. It's something I think about only when masturbating as well.

mrssummerlin
by on Apr. 10, 2013 at 8:23 AM
No, this doesn't make you some kind of pedophile even if you and your DH were acting it out. You're both grown adults... That makes it not pedophila due to age.

Now, if your fantasy was to be having sex with a 14 yr old, then THAT would make you a pedophile.
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Apr. 10, 2013 at 9:10 AM
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I have always had an older man fetish.. my first lover was 45.. I was 16. It is just like you fantasize.. he taught me all about pleasure.. he touched me with skilled hands and made me feel like I was gold. We stopped seeing each other when I was 18 because my family moved but I am currently 28 and I never saw that as pedophilia.. I still don't. I was "adult" enough that I could've been fucking bobby bilsap from school, gotten prego, and joined a TV series. I am not comfortable with the idea of someone under say 15 and even the older teens depends on the maturity of the person.

Btw.. have you ever read the book Lolita?
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