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why does it cost money to adopt a child?

Posted by on Nov. 9, 2011 at 6:56 PM
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Ataemommy
by on Nov. 9, 2011 at 6:57 PM

So that not every moron can have one, like biologically having one.

Lishes
by on Nov. 9, 2011 at 7:00 PM

 It cost to adopt a newborn, in most states it costs almost nothing (sometimes nothing) to adopt from foster care.


MoonShadow3
by on Nov. 9, 2011 at 7:00 PM

lol being poor doesn't make someone a moron. but seriously what are you paying for when you go through the adoption process?

Quoting Ataemommy:

So that not every moron can have one, like biologically having one.


K123434
by on Dec. 12, 2014 at 11:24 AM
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You are paying for the labor and time it takes people to facilitate the adoption, living expenses, legal fees, agency fees, etc. The people who make adoptions happen need money to live, and that money comes from you. Just like all other business, non-profits and organizations, adoption agencies wouldn't be able to survive if they weren't able to generate income, and that comes from adoption fees.

mcginnisc
by *Claire-Bear* on Dec. 12, 2014 at 11:52 AM


Quoting MoonShadow3:

lol being poor doesn't make someone a moron. but seriously what are you paying for when you go through the adoption process?

Quoting Ataemommy:

So that not every moron can have one, like biologically having one.

She did not say poor...she said moron specifically. When you adopt, you are taking a child that does not have a biological link to you and making them yours..this means there needs to be stringent regulations. This process is meant to weed out those that are not adoption material. 

Anyone ( barring infertility) can have a biological child...many people should NEVER be adoptive parents which is what I'm guessing this poster meant. 

As far as costs go: 

It depends on the route you take...

Foster care is minimal to free. The fees are for a homestudy as well as amended birth certificates. Most children in the system have a stipend attached to their case which means the adoptive parent receives a check monthly for their care as well as medical insurance through the state. 

Domestic Infant adoption: It depends on the agency/attorney. Some of them require fees for the expectant woman's living expenses, some do not... it also covers court costs, amended birth certificates, homestudy...and each state has different laws regarding costs in adoptions as well as finalization laws. 

International adoption: The fees are many...trust me..BTDT. We adopted from China in 2007. Our fees were as follows ( roughly): application fee  to agency- $150, agency fee- $3500, homestudy fee- $3000, there were costs in the homestudy process as well: medical copays for physicals ($20 for each of us twice..and we had to have TB tests and HIV/Aids test,birth certificates for each of us ( $20 each), marriage license ($20),  vet records for pets, septic tank inspection, notarization of every single page($5)...not to mention we also had to have the notarization authorized...( $2 per page)..

In addition to the added homestudy fees, we also had child abuse clearances at the county level, state level and federal level..We had to pay for the state level twice for 2 people, as well as the federal level twice for 2 people. State was $60 total and Federal was $280 total...The USCIS paperwork was $685 and we had to do it twice. We also had to have a state homestudy done twice...Part of our issue was that when we started the wait for a referral was 6 months...it ended up being 17 months and our paperwork expired and had to be redone. 

State seal $130

Country authentication: This was a few hundred dollars as well. 

Visas that had to be expedited due to my mother in law and GMIL being on a cruise shortly before travel and we had to send in their passports with ours as they were going with us....All Visas had to be issued at the same time..

China Fees: Oh yes...they have their own fees in addition to the US fees.. We spent approximately $ 18K in US fees, and $4K in Chinese fees...

There were also travel fees: flights for 2 there and 3 back, hotels for 3 weeks, food for 3 weeks, tours for 2 people...

We spent $26K roughly on our adoption process almost 8 years ago. Some of those fees have increased over time ( US and Chinese fees both). 

Claire


" I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me." Philippians 4:13 

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 on Dec. 12, 2014 at 11:57 AM

We adopted internationally.  We paid the agency to do our homestudy and facilitate everything for the adoption (from intake of our kids to matching them with us to facilitating the legal adoption to having them ready for us to pick up), we paid the foreign government money so that they could keep the orphanage running, we had to pay court fees and fees for immigration.  We also had to pay for visas, medical exams, passports, airfare & hotels, all to get our kids home.

Liastele
by Lauren on Dec. 12, 2014 at 12:00 PM

The adoption process is lengthy and expensive to ensure people do not wake up one morning and decide they randomly feel like adopting and 3 days later realize they made a mistake and are stuck with a kid. There are also legal fees involved to protect all parties. 

Bigmetalchicken
by Emerald Member on Dec. 12, 2014 at 12:06 PM

Legal fees, the cost of caring for the child until it is placed, medical expenses, background checks, etc.  Besides, how is it fair to place a child in expectations of a better life, when the family can not afford an amount that is simply a drop in the bucket compared to the actual costs associated with raising a child? But it is a lot cheaper to adopt if you are fine with whatever kids they have in the state system, vs. a private adoption with a birth mother and father that are attractive, healthy, intelligent, good people that made a mistake but want to do the best for the child. 

adopteeme
by Silver Member on Dec. 13, 2014 at 11:19 AM
To make it pretty, it's buying adoption services that lead to a child.

All that's really necessary is filing the legal paperwork.
Google your favorite nonprofit adoption agencies 990 tax info.
See what they budget on marketing.
How much they spend on "counseling"
And what are the salaries of these professionals?
It's BS.

Here's a couple of good reads about the money in adoption

Infant Adoption Is Big Business in America
http://www.originscanada.org/infant.pdf

"Who Cares If People Are Exploited by Adoption?"
http://www.americanadoptioncongress.org/practices_watson_article.php


KairisMama
by Emerald Member on Dec. 13, 2014 at 11:23 AM
My in laws paid 20,000 to adopt from Russia 12 years ago. It was a VERY LENGTHY process. Lots of legal hoopla.
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