you dont deserve pity imo.
i dont care what the circumstances are, that he is abusive, that he doesnt give you enough love, because he is deployed, nothing.
there is no excuse for cheating. if y ou are going to cheat, get a divorce and be a grown ass woman about it.
2 wrongs dont make a damned right.
Are you threatening me?
THANK YOU!!!!!! Seriously though, I'm so damn glad that someone has the balls to say this! And not hide behind anon!!!
line is that things aren't always cut and dry. So, you go on living in your judgmental little bubble and I'll go on helping my friend as much as I possibly can WITHOUT judging her for the way she needs to handle things. K?
Quoting xomrs.chase:
She doesn't need a man to get away from an abusive relationship.
She could use a friend to help her gain her independence and be able to leave on her own.
Honestly- it sounds dumb. Its not like "jobs: get a new before leaving old"
If she's being abused she needs to get out for HER not another man.
Really?
Why don't YOU help?
Quoting Anonymous:
Normally, I would agree with you OP, BUT I have a friend who is in an extremely scary situation right now and it would benefit her to find another man before she leaves her husband. She has no one else to help her to get away from her abusive husband. It's a long story, but in her situation it would be silly for her not to get into a new relationship before she tries to leave her current one.
Quoting xomrs.chase:
She doesn't need a man to get away from an abusive relationship.
She could use a friend to help her gain her independence and be able to leave on her own.
Honestly- it sounds dumb. Its not like "jobs: get a new before leaving old"
If she's being abused she needs to get out for HER not another man.
Really?
Why don't YOU help?
Quoting Anonymous:
Normally, I would agree with you OP, BUT I have a friend who is in an extremely scary situation right now and it would benefit her to find another man before she leaves her husband. She has no one else to help her to get away from her abusive husband. It's a long story, but in her situation it would be silly for her not to get into a new relationship before she tries to leave her current one.
Quoting .Angel.Eyes.:Coming from a former adulteress, I agree. Cheating is a selfish act. If you loved yourself if you loved at all arrogance would not take place in your heart. Arrogance says "I need it, I want it, I deserve it, I'm going to have it my way NOW." Prideful heart leads to nothing but destruction. Your character must contain a tremendous amount patience when in a relationship with another. When you make a commitment it becomes a promise to always love one another deeply, in all that you do. Two hearts beats as one, you become one with one another. Maintaining a healthy marriage is hard work. A relationship is a living thing that must be nurtured. In order to prevent inner death in your marriage you must give your time to each other.... Communicate and compromise.
FYI, just for those saying it is sooo easy to walk away from an abusive relationship, check out the story in Texas where a woman walked away from her abusive husband, he went after her, shot her 3 times, murdered all 4 of her young children and then shot himself. Not saying she cheated because the story doesn't say so, but sometimes walking away from an abuser isn't always an option!
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on Nov. 29, 2011 at 5:10 AM