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My un-confession is...

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I AM NOT AN ADDICT... and I am really, really tired of getting treated like one!!  People that are close to me treat me like I'm just a step away from rehab.

I have prescription for pain meds.  I get a refill of 30 once ever 4 to 5 (sometimes 6) months.  I get them because of an issue I have with my should and neck.  When the pain flares up, my right shoulder aches and gets stiff, my right hand goes numb, my neck feels like there is a 50lb bag of sand on it, and the pain will wrap around  the right side of my head.  The pain has been so severe in my head that my right eye swells shut (it feels like I've been stabbed with an ice pick).  I usually vomit from the pain... the motion of this usually makes the pain worse and cause more vomitting.  These episodes last anywhere from 3 to 6 days.  

I have been to no less than 20 doctors over the last 15 years... general practioners, ENTs, Holistic Medicine Specialist, Chiropractors, Orthopedics, ect.  All of them had different ideas as to the cause of the pain and each one had a different treatment.  Not once did I go to ANY of them for pain medication... I wanted the problem fixed not covered up.  I always treated the pain with Tylenol or Advil and what ever else they prescribed (sinus meds, anti inflammatories, antibiotics, steriods).  It has just been in the last few years that I have given up hope of finding and fixing the cause.  I don't have insurance so the only doc I can really see is my GP.  She gives me the pain meds.  I take them to help me sleep through the pain at night and maybe to get through the day IF and ONLY IF I have someone to drive me where I need to go. 

Since I got these meds, my mom and some people who are close to me give me these little talks about how addicting they are and how worried they are for me.  One person has made snarky remarks like... "I can't ride in car with you... you're a junkie!" and "You've been hitting the pills too much!" (when I disagree with him).  I even had one of the docs (the Orthopedic) tell me that he KNEW I was making it all up just to get drugs.  I had so wanted to go back the next time I was in pain just so he could see how much I was "making it up" and then vomit on his shoes!!

 I have never been an addict... I don't smoke... I don't even drink... and I don't know why in the hell people treat me like I am!!

I know this is a vent instead of a confession.  If you made it though this whole thing... THANK YOU!

Posted by Anonymous on Dec. 3, 2011 at 12:12 AM
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by on Dec. 3, 2011 at 12:16 AM

Wow, I'm sorry!  It is so sad that so many people abuse the system that real cases get treated so poorly!

If you are only getting refills a few times a year, as you indicated, then you clearly aren't an addict, IMO.  Addicts and people selling the pills would go through them so much faster!

Stay strong, and keep looking for answers.  Hopefully someday a doctor can help you solve the problem!

by Gold Member on Dec. 3, 2011 at 12:28 AM

just tell them until your ACTING like a high junkie tell them to kick rocks

by on Dec. 3, 2011 at 12:39 AM
I'm sorry people just think its alright to assume and mistreat you. Sometimes our love ones tend to only see the bad side of things for some strange reason. Keep your head up and keep telling them they're wrong.
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by Silver Member on Dec. 3, 2011 at 12:57 AM

Have they done an MRI to check for a herniated disc in your c-spine????

by on Dec. 3, 2011 at 1:06 AM

I feel your pain!! I have crazy low back pain and no one can figure out why. When it flares, you can leave hand prints in the swelling its so gross! Luckily my Dr is pretty cool about it. She knows that I have don't everything possible and haven't had much relief. I am sorry that they are not supporting you. 

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by Anonymous 2 on Dec. 3, 2011 at 1:15 AM

 I know how you feel. I have Endometriosis and for 6 years the drs basically told me my pain was in my head and to take ibuprofen.!! In 2008 I was in a 4 wheeler accident and now have 3 bulging discs in my back. For 2 years I dealt with both pain on my own going to the dr a few times here and there never finding an answer. It wasn't until 2010 that an MRI showed what was really going on. I then found out I was pregnant so it all stopped any kind of treatment plan. I think I was prescribed once some pain meds at about 4 months for my back issue. Well, finally I was referred to pain management. I thought I don't want to do this it's nothing but "junkies" getting their fix....but you know it's not!! They prescribed other meds and aquatic therapy but insurance didn't cover that. So, now I am still in pain management and have had 2 epidural shots for my back (was supposed to have 3 but too expensive) and on a pain med regimen I guess you could say that helps me tremendously!!! Good luck and hope things get better for you!

by on Dec. 3, 2011 at 1:18 AM

Oh my gosh. I'm so sorry. I have lower back pain that will flare up and it hurts like Hell. I have pain meds that I take for it because it is so intense. Luckily, I don't have to take them that often.

I'm sorry that your family is not very supportive. Obviously they have no idea what real addiction looks like.

by on Dec. 3, 2011 at 1:24 AM
That is so sad that so many people abuse them that in real cases they aren't taken seriously. I had a period of just shy of a year that I had really screwed up my knee, and my doctor had me on 2 pain meds, one she wanted me to take daily regardless, and one that I was suppose to take as needed. And at the time everyone was treating me like I was some sort of druggie. Thankfully my boss at the time was pretty cool about it and could tell when the pain was getting bad because I would limp so severly. I hated people looking at me like a pill popper
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by on Dec. 3, 2011 at 1:30 AM

It's understandable that they would be worried. If someone in my family was on pain meds i would have a talk with them. But thats only because my oldest brother overdosed and died this year on his prescription pain meds. (Oxycotons) Its not right of them to make jokes, but the concern is normal. Just let them know you are using them responsibly and you will let them know if you think its getting out of control.

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