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What do you consider being a virgin? *Edit w/ definition and poll*

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Question: What do you think?

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Vaginal penetration only

Anal or vaginal penetration

Any sexual experience means you are not a virgin


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Something I always found to be an interesting debate. Me and my SIL were discussing it and she thinks that ANY act of sexual nature (oral, anal, etc) means you loose your virginity. I, on the other hand, always believed it was when you actually had sex, you know, the kind that will make babies lol.




Virginity refers to the state of a person who has never engaged in sexual intercourse. There are cultural and religious traditions which place special value and significance on this state, especially in the case of unmarried females, associated with notions of personal purity, honor and worth. Like chastity, the concept of virginity has traditionally involved sexual abstinence before marriage, and then to engage in sexual acts only with the marriage partner.

Unlike the term premarital sex, which can refer to more than one occasion of sexual activity and can be judgment neutral, the concept of virginity usually involves moral or religious issues and can have consequences in terms of social status and in interpersonal relationships. A person can lose his/her virginity voluntarily or involuntarily, as in the case of rape.

The term originally only referred to sexually inexperienced women, but has evolved to encompass a range of definitions, as found in traditional, modern, and ethical concepts.[1][2][3][4] Heterosexual individuals may or may not consider loss of virginity to occur only through penile-vaginal penetration,[1][3][4] while people of other sexual orientations may include oral sex, anal sex or mutual masturbation in their definitions of losing one's virginity.[3][5][6] Further, the belief that virginity can only be lost through consensual sex has also been prevalent

Posted by Anonymous on Dec. 4, 2011 at 4:00 PM
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zianneaaliyah
by 4ever LMFAO on Dec. 4, 2011 at 4:27 PM

Anything involving penetration of the anal, vagina, or mouth. 

zianneaaliyah
by 4ever LMFAO on Dec. 4, 2011 at 4:29 PM
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Sorry, that is not a virgin, just a vaginal one. 

Quoting RhondaVeggie:

I think anything that could result in pregnancy or a STD counts. Not just full penetration, if you're messing around close enough and naked enough that you could possibly get pregnant or catch a STD then you can't really call yourself a virgin. I knew a few girls in college who were saving themselves for marriage so they wouldn't have full intercourse. They'd get naked with a guy and hump, perform and receive oral sex, even have anal sex and do all kinds of weird kinky stuff with multiple partners at once. They just wouldn't allow a guy to put it all the way in to that one orifice because that would be sex before marriage and that would mean they were a slut.


camsmami
by Silver Member on Dec. 4, 2011 at 4:41 PM
What about those molested as a child?

Are we considered non-virgins?
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Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Dec. 4, 2011 at 4:43 PM


Quoting camsmami:

What about those molested as a child?

Are we considered non-virgins?

I guess so. To those who believe any sexual act is considered. Idk, I think I will stick with believing penetration only, cause otherwise it would mean I lost it at a very young age too.

hillary819
by on Dec. 4, 2011 at 4:45 PM
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Unless it is consentual, it is not sex.  Rape is not sex, it's violence!

Quoting camsmami:

What about those molested as a child?

Are we considered non-virgins?


camsmami
by Silver Member on Dec. 4, 2011 at 4:45 PM
I think that we are still virgins if molested as children. We didn't consent to it.

Kwim?


Quoting Anonymous:



Quoting camsmami:

What about those molested as a child?



Are we considered non-virgins?

I guess so. To those who believe any sexual act is considered. Idk, I think I will stick with believing penetration only, cause otherwise it would mean I lost it at a very young age too.

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camsmami
by Silver Member on Dec. 4, 2011 at 4:46 PM
I couldn't agree more..

Quoting hillary819:

Unless it is consentual, it is not sex.  Rape is not sex, it's violence!


Quoting camsmami:

What about those molested as a child?



Are we considered non-virgins?


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elizabeth.mary
by on Dec. 4, 2011 at 4:47 PM

Vaginal penetration.

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Dec. 4, 2011 at 4:55 PM


Quoting camsmami:

I think that we are still virgins if molested as children. We didn't consent to it.

Kwim?


Quoting Anonymous:



Quoting camsmami:

What about those molested as a child?



Are we considered non-virgins?

I guess so. To those who believe any sexual act is considered. Idk, I think I will stick with believing penetration only, cause otherwise it would mean I lost it at a very young age too.

Yes. I was also raped as a teen, but when asked when I lost it, I say I lost it to my first serious BF. I don't believe it's lost in rape. That's why me and sil were discussing it in the first place. I know other people believe differently, but this is what helps me sleep at night lol.

The reason I thought it was an interesting debate is because I'd never heard anyone say that they believe it is lost with any kind of sexual experience.

Mamitamaria
by Silver Member on Dec. 7, 2011 at 8:53 AM

This

Quoting Cochise:

vaginal intercourse only


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