My mominlaw seems to want control of the baby. Anytime she takes my daughter she doesn't want to bring her back. She also won't return any of the clothes she was sent in until my daughter has outgrown them, I am sure its deliberate. My dh feels like he needs to defend his mom, until our daughter came along he was not interested in my hubbys life at all, she seems to be trying to take his happiness away, she doesn't seem to want us to have her. The last straw was the other day when she said she was having withdrawl pains from not having her. If I try and talk to my dh it hurts him, we had a talk the other about this, and we feel that this withdrawl thing is a problem, there are grandmas all over the world who don't see there grandkids once a week, much less once a month. I love my hubby and don't want to put him in a bad spot, as far as his mom is concerned our daughter is the only thing he's done right, it comes off that way. My mom says that once our daughter can talk she will b able to tell us she doesn't want to go to, as my son says, the "dump." I am thinking my daughter knows somethings wrong because when she gets back she looks upset. Sorry to ramble, but when she slapped my daughters hand for touching herself during a diaper change I got really upset grams said "I guess kids do that." Any advice would be helpful.