My husband and I have been together for about 5 1/2 years. The girl that is just now trying to establish paternity was someone he dated right before me. I really don't understand why she waited so many years to "establish paternity" w/ him. How is that fair to him that that stupid piece of shit women didn't tell him he could be the father of her baby years ago?? Now he just has to be ok that he lost the first 6 years of his possible child's life. How are women allowed to do that? I don't know maybe if I would have known when I met him that he had a baby I wouldn't have been w/him. But, how could I have known if he didn't even know?? Her stupid decision to keep it from him has now affected my life and our children's lives. This is bullshit! There should be punishment for the women who decide for some reason to let the possible father know 6 years later that they might have a child!! I understand either way if the child is his that it's his responsibility to pay child support, and I am not arguing that. Child support is not the issue here. The issue is why did she wait so long?? 6 years lost and if it is his daughter how scary will it be for the little girl to have to leave w/ a stranger she's never met (custody). Our system is so screwded up!!