Or at least it feels that way sometimes. I was 15 when we got together, and we've been together for 8 years. I feel like while I have grown up over the years, he has not, and he is significantly older than me (I'm not going to say how much because I don't want the point of this post to be our age difference etc.) In some ways, he is perfect for me. He does treat me well. He tells me that I'm beautitful and that he loves me several times everyday. He is affectionate towards me and the sex is amazing. He stays home with me and the kids, he's not out partying all the time and I trust him completely and don't believe for a moment that he would ever cheat on me. He is a wonderful father to our children and they absolutely adore him.
He is not working right now, and even when he does work, he doesn't have much education and in our town it is extremely hard to find a job so he doesn't make a lot of money and I have to work. I work fulltime and I am a fulltime student so when he got laid off we had a long talk and decided that it would be easier for him to stay home with the kids until I finish school because we can't afford daycare and we only have one car. Financially, we can make it on just my income. I was perfectly fine with this, it was actually my idea. However, I am SO sick of coming home to my house being a disaster! I come home exhausted, and I just want to spend time with the kids and relax, I don't feel like having to clean the house. I have talked to him about this, but he says it's too hard to keep up on the housework. Our kids are young, and they do tend to destroy the house quickly. He does clean some, but not nearly enough. He thinks he can clean, and then he's off the hook for a couple of days. He does the dishes everyday but then won't clean the living room or sweep the kitchen floor. It drives me insane! He says he doesn't think he should have to do all of the cleaning, and I don't have a problem with helping a little bit but I do feel like he should do more than me. I feel like he spends more time playing video games than cleaning, and it annoys me greatly.
I don't know what to do. Am I being petty? Am I expecting too much of him? I really don't think I am. But I don't know that this is a good enough reason to let it cause a rift in our otherwise good marriage. Is this something I should let slide? Is it worthy of a huge fight? Please ladies, I need some good advice.