My dh had a friend that he had since grade school named andrea. They were ok friends, not best friends, just talked and hung out every once and a while. They were never anything more than friends, ever.
About a week after we got engaged she called him and told him he needed to break up with me. She told him she was in love with him and wanted to be with him so he needed to leave me so they could try being together. He obviously said no and quit talking to her. That was about six and a half years ago.
A few days before christmas he told me she friended him on facebook. He accepted because she is now married with two kids. I was ok with it because she has a husband and kids. A couple days later I was playing with his phone and noticed he had a message from her. I asked him about it and he said they had been talking though messaging. I asked him to please not delete them so I could read them (he typically deletes all messages after reading them.)
So a few days after that I looked at his messages. I was appalled at what I read! She was telling him about how unhappy she was with her life and her marriage. She also told him that she thinks about him all the time! In all of his responses he was completely oblivious that she was hitting on him! So of course I sat down with dh and told him that I felt she was being really inappropriate. He thinks she is just unhappy and looking for a friend to talk to. Given their past, I think she is trying to get in his pants.
I told dh I am a woman and I know exactly what she is trying to do. He told me to get more opinions. So what do you think? What would you think if your so was in the same position?
thanks for all the replies ladies! When dh got home last night I checked his messages again. He had told her she was being inappropriate and didn't need to be telling him their marital problems. She apologized then went on to tell him she was going to divorce him. So I talked to dh and told him she obviously wasn't listening and if she is getting divorced that is not something he needs to be in the middle of. We read through these replies together and decided he needed to tell her they could no longer be friends. He sent her a message letting her know. She responded back with a sob story. Ugh. Hopefully she gets it this time and leaves him alone.
Also, sorry if I made it unclear, but she does not have his phone number. They were talking on facebook chat only!