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If I had only known better.

Posted by on Jan. 8, 2012 at 2:51 PM
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There are times when I think back at some of the choices I made when I was pg and my babies were infants that make me sad and I wish I could do it over.

I tried breastfeeding with my son. It went terribly and I had a horrible lactation consultant. After 6 weeks of hell and an unhappy baby, we switched to formula. I wish I had stuck it out. Because of that failure, I didn't even try to breastfeed my second child and I have such bad mommy guilt over it.

I delivered in a hospital with both. No pain meds, but I did have pitocin. I'm not guilty about this but if I could do it over again, I would have had them at a birthing center or at home with a midwife. Those doctors and nurses didn't care about me or my baby the way a midwife/doula would have.

I have such "Mommy Guilt" but I try to make up for it all now by making sure that everything I do is in their best interest, to what they eat, their education and to make sure their childhoods are long and magical.

Do you have any "mommy guilt"? Anything you would have done differently?

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alexsmomaubrys2
by Ruby Member on Jan. 8, 2012 at 2:51 PM

BUMP!

paulswife208
by Member on Jan. 8, 2012 at 2:55 PM
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 my kids are still alive so no I don't have any mommy guilt.

I don't like that we do this to ourselves. You can't go back so move on.

paulswife208
by Member on Jan. 8, 2012 at 2:57 PM
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 and where are these hospitals that are so horrible. My nurses and my doctor where wonderful. I had a great experience at the hospital where I had my kids.

alexsmomaubrys2
by Ruby Member on Jan. 8, 2012 at 2:57 PM


Quoting paulswife208:

 my kids are still alive so no I don't have any mommy guilt.

I don't like that we do this to ourselves. You can't go back so move on.

I know we can't go back but my past "failures" makes me want to do so much better now.

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"Oppression of spirit is not on
the public school curriculum. Rather, it's a noxious by-product produced
while stewing schooling in a pot w/ unions, administrators,
multi-billion dollar budgets, state education departments, and school
boards, then letting politicians control the heat." Linda Dobson

"When you want to teach
children to think, you begin by treating them seriously when they are
little, giving them responsibilities, talking to them candidly,
providing privacy and solitude for them, and making them readers and
thinkers of significant thoughts from the beginning. That's *if* you
want to teach them to think." ~ Bertrand Russell

3_girls_86
by Ruby Member on Jan. 8, 2012 at 2:58 PM
The one time I brest fed didn't go well either. She had problems latching on. The nurses were bitches about me not doing it right, duhhh its my first child!! That went bad so I didn't even try with my other 2. My youngest was searching for it right after I had her, when they lay them on your chest, and I said no because I didn't want to go through that pain again. I wish I would have at least tried with both of them.

I had a bad support system. My mom told me ff is the same as bf.
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Babii_Blue85
by on Jan. 8, 2012 at 2:58 PM
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no mommy guilt here, everything happens for a reason so we have to learn from the things that happen, not dwell and beat ourselves up for them.


Anonymous
by Anonymous on Jan. 8, 2012 at 2:59 PM
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None. I'm not perfect, and I accept that. No need for me to feel guilty.
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paulswife208
by Member on Jan. 8, 2012 at 3:00 PM

 

Quoting alexsmomaubrys2:


Quoting paulswife208:

 my kids are still alive so no I don't have any mommy guilt.

I don't like that we do this to ourselves. You can't go back so move on.

I know we can't go back but my past "failures" makes me want to do so much better now.

 I'm sorry I didn't mean for that to sound so harsh. I just don't see your past "failures" as failures I see a mom who did and I assume is still doing her best. Just like we all are.

andiecheyenne
by Bronze Member on Jan. 8, 2012 at 3:02 PM
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I would have said no to the c-section unless I ABSOLUTELY needed it... my blood pressure kept going up, so I guess that was a need. I would have kept breastfeeding... or at least kept trying to get her to latch.

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Jan. 8, 2012 at 3:02 PM
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I think my biggest "mommy guilt" is over not breastfeeding. I never even attempted to breast feed. I made the decision early in my pregnancy that I would use formula! Honestly, the thought of breastfeeding "weirded me out". I've always seen my boobs in a sexual nature, so the thought of my baby on them...I just couldn't get past it. A few days after I gave birth, we were at home and I cried to SO because I felt bad that I had never even given it a chance.

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