My Stepdaughter can't keep her legs closed!

[Anonymous]

Ok, so my 21 year old step daughter has a 3 year old son, has had over four abortions, sleeps on a blow up mattress on somebody's floor, cannot hold jobs for long, and is pregnant again...why does she hate herself so much and what can I do to stop feeling disgust towards her?

[mamaelle88]

Ignore her.. she's a step child, not your blood. If your husband could careless then you shouldn't.

[SarahLizyB]

She needs some therapy to teach her self worth

[JP-StrongForTwo]

i dont know. 

i dont think i could ever have such disgust for my child. 

biologically or not. 

[Anonymous]

try helping her

[DomoniqueWS]

idk she is an adult and needs to figure things out.

[Anonymous - Original Poster]

The problem is she is always asking for money and my husband and I argue about it...he always feels Sorry for the baby...

[Anonymous]

Gee...maybe because her parents (whether you are her stepmom or not) can't even love her for who she is. I'd bet she can feel that from a mile away....I know I could. Try being nice and accepting her. Try offering help besides financially. Try encouraging her and making her believe that she is worth more.

[hollydaze1974]

pay for therapy, her self esteem is in the toilet. i slept with everythng that moved at that age (although i used condoms but got herpes anyway ) this is the age that mental illness can start.
could be any number of things...but I really think offering tobhelped her through therapy is best. and many therapist's work on a sliding scales...
parenting classes, too?

[Anonymous]

I agree with this.

Quoting Anonymous:

Gee...maybe because her parents (whether you are her stepmom or not) can't even love her for who she is. I'd bet she can feel that from a mile away....I know I could. Try being nice and accepting her. Try offering help besides financially. Try encouraging her and making her believe that she is worth more.

[Anonymous]

Maybe she has daddy issues. Did your husband mess her up? Did the divorce mess her up? He could give her money and stuff to make up for not being there or divorcing her mom. Why don't you let her move in with you guys and help her out and try to fix her problems.